discussion What do you think about threesomes?

[Magician5513]

There seems to be missing one option : I want to do it but NOT with my partner

 

[Azuma Ayame]

There seems to be missing one option : I want to do it but NOT with my partner

That's the first option then

 

[Karamchad]

Only if it means more women.
Remember that the female and the male universe are completely different
For example, men do not use "virgin" as an offensive term for women

 

[Loliholic]

Remember that the female and the male universe are completely different
For example, men do not use "virgin" as an offensive term for women

I think its more your universe that differs from reality.
I've met many guys who used "virgin" as an insult, not only towards other guys but towards girls as well.
What i never heard was a girl trying to use it as an insult against other girls...only against guys.

 

[Azuma Ayame]

Only if it means more women.
Remember that the female and the male universe are completely different
For example, men do not use "virgin" as an offensive term for women

Agreed.

 

[dereguedeixe]

Some like the ones from wvm are great

 

[punnknight]

i think that in someway i think it works if your partner is in someway a cuck or a clit (female cuck) that's into sharing and gets turned on by seeing you get with other men or women preference depending and gets satisfaction from that while also joining in. everyone involved should be at least a little bit secure with them selves and can't get overly jealous or insecure over dick/breast/ass/pussy size preferences. i'd like to find that woman one day and build a small women only harem family can't lie i would be hypocritical if she asked for the same with other guys can't do that

 

[dreski]

would love to be apart of one someday..

 

[Quxe]

Fine in fantasy but not something I would personally want irl.

 

[Loliholic]

i think that in someway i think it works if your partner is in someway a cuck or a clit (female cuck) that's into sharing and gets turned on by seeing you get with other men or women preference depending and gets satisfaction from that while also joining in. everyone involved should be at least a little bit secure with them selves and can't get overly jealous or insecure over dick/breast/ass/pussy size preferences. i'd like to find that woman one day and build a small women only harem family can't lie i would be hypocritical if she asked for the same with other guys can't do that

You dont need to be into sharing. Personally i dont care about that aspect. Sure, its always a turnon to see her orgasms, no matter what caused them, but thats just a bonus for us, not the reason. Every pussy tastes differently and adding another girl just doubles everything for everyone when you play by equal rules (=everyone gets at least one orgasm from everyone else). Sure, that only works up to 6 girls or it takes the whole day, so orgies are bound to different rules, but you dont need a sharing kink for any of it, you just need to enjoy sex and within relationships you need to know your partner enjoys it as well and dont has perverted links between sex and emotions. I mean, you can have sex with everyone, but you cant love everyone and sex with a loved one is always unique, so why restrict sex to a loved one? There is nothing to proof or to gain, but much to lose for everyone...and since monos never learn new things, their routine often leads to cheating partners or boring/dying sexlifes.
However, even the slightest jealousy ruins everything. You need to focus on what you are doing, not on what your partner is doing. And a bad performance is not the only problem, people who suppress their real feelings just to make their partner happy or just to try something they are not really comfortable with, build up a tension that will explode at some point and can damage the relationship more then refusing a threesome/orgy offer right away.
I'm sure some are into sharing or have a macho kink and want multiple pussys at their disposal, but i guess most 3somes are just for fun without a deeper kink behind it...and last but not least ther are also some desperates who try to save failing relationships when its mostly already to late to learn something new.

 

[punnknight]

You dont need to be into sharing. Personally i dont care about that aspect. Sure, its always a turnon to see her orgasms, no matter what caused them, but thats just a bonus for us, not the reason. Every pussy tastes differently and adding another girl just doubles everything for everyone when you play by equal rules (=everyone gets at least one orgasm from everyone else). Sure, that only works up to 6 girls or it takes the whole day, so orgies are bound to different rules, but you dont need a sharing kink for any of it, you just need to enjoy sex and within relationships you need to know your partner enjoys it as well and dont has perverted links between sex and emotions. I mean, you can have sex with everyone, but you cant love everyone and sex with a loved one is always unique, so why restrict sex to a loved one? There is nothing to proof or to gain, but much to lose for everyone...and since monos never learn new things, their routine often leads to cheating partners or boring/dying sexlifes.
However, even the slightest jealousy ruins everything. You need to focus on what you are doing, not on what your partner is doing. And a bad performance is not the only problem, people who suppress their real feelings just to make their partner happy or just to try something they are not really comfortable with, build up a tension that will explode at some point and can damage the relationship more then refusing a threesome/orgy offer right away.
I'm sure some are into sharing or have a macho kink and want multiple pussys at their disposal, but i guess most 3somes are just for fun without a deeper kink behind it...and last but not least ther are also some desperates who try to save failing relationships when its mostly already to late to learn something new.

unfortunately some try to use threesomes to hide infidelity's and granted that some people are able to separate sex from love but most in the universe get jealous over simple change in attention and i think any man or woman would love to have their own dream harem family but that needs the deepest levels of trust and understanding that doesn't always last even in good situations, but if it work out for those that it does than all the power to them. maybe one day i might reach that point or meet someone that helps unlock aside of me i haven't explored

 

[Kansasfarms]

Me and partner talk about it in fantasy but I doubt we will ever indulge ;(

 

[Demiurge299]

Only in games...FFM

plus one to this. its more pain in the ass than anything, so I'll leave it to games. that and MMF is the devils threesome. FFM only.

 

[Loliholic]

unfortunately some try to use threesomes to hide infidelity's and granted that some people are able to separate sex from love but most in the universe get jealous over simple change in attention and i think any man or woman would love to have their own dream harem family but that needs the deepest levels of trust and understanding that doesn't always last even in good situations, but if it work out for those that it does than all the power to them. maybe one day i might reach that point or meet someone that helps unlock aside of me i haven't explored

Well, i cant speak for guys or heteros since my experience is strictly limited to lesbians. But its not very uncommon for lesbians to be more open about it. Maybe its because we dont need dick measure contests or its an evolutionary variable since lesbians cant accidentally impregnete each other. However, its pretty common for couples, triangles and more to join our orgies and only a minor fraction of them focus on their partners there. Most of them just have their own share of fun and only start and/or end with their partners. In 3somes, no matter if big sis or myself join a couple or if half of a couple joins us, it dont affects any feelings since we all know its just for fun. The same goes for random encounters, there is also no need to ask for permission because its always granted, but we always tell the girls what they can and cant expect.
Sure, it takes honest communication and trust, but imho that should be the base of every meaningful relationship. However, we share this lifestyle since childhood, are used to it and learned how to prevent damage to others relationships. For example, we only allow girls to join in if they really want it, those with doubts can stay and watch while they make up their minds. Its up to them if they want to join, keep watching or leave. Many girls who join our orgies are regulars since 10+ years. We also dont do that anonymous crap and are friends with many of them, its more like a widespread growing community with orgasms ^^

 

[whydoineedto]

You mean like, using both hands?

 

[uncbuck]

Been there done that IRL both ways - MFM and FMF Pretty much a lot of fun , some of my best memories

 

[punnknight]

Well, i cant speak for guys or heteros since my experience is strictly limited to lesbians. But its not very uncommon for lesbians to be more open about it. Maybe its because we dont need dick measure contests or its an evolutionary variable since lesbians cant accidentally impregnete each other. However, its pretty common for couples, triangles and more to join our orgies and only a minor fraction of them focus on their partners there. Most of them just have their own share of fun and only start and/or end with their partners. In 3somes, no matter if big sis or myself join a couple or if half of a couple joins us, it dont affects any feelings since we all know its just for fun. The same goes for random encounters, there is also no need to ask for permission because its always granted, but we always tell the girls what they can and cant expect.
Sure, it takes honest communication and trust, but imho that should be the base of every meaningful relationship. However, we share this lifestyle since childhood, are used to it and learned how to prevent damage to others relationships. For example, we only allow girls to join in if they really want it, those with doubts can stay and watch while they make up their minds. Its up to them if they want to join, keep watching or leave. Many girls who join our orgies are regulars since 10+ years. We also dont do that anonymous crap and are friends with many of them, its more like a widespread growing community with orgasms ^^

i'm not going to lie that sounds amazing to be honest and very excepting and trusting and is build upon a strong foundation of trust, love and understanding, but yes the hetero effect is some guys feeling minimized or less than. Even when they try to focus on the fun and do often end up being dick measuring contests especially if there is a size queen or their partners seem more satisfied by someone else like what happened to Sneako some can't handle that others can give pleasure to their partner. As long as nothing is forced and everyone consents and are openly commutating things can work with the right group of people i think

 

[juustomestari]

Those are great as long as your parents are not involved.

 

[rizzyl]

If I wanted to disappoint two people at the same time I would just go live with my parents again

 

[palpi]

I'm quite a free spirit, and I know I'm definitely not going to be a part of a locked down, exclusive relationship of any kind. For me, sex is a tool of communication, a way for me to express myself, my emotions, my feelings towards a person, and I see no reason why I should limit that expression to just one person. It's like asking me to use my native language only with my partner, unable to use it with anybody else. It's just limiting and totally overkill for me.

So yeah, absolutely down for threesomes, but definitely not a fan of surprises when it comes to sex, since those can go very wrong very quickly. Talking through it beforehand and making sure everyone likes everyone? Yes, that's my jam.