discussion Why don't you like to socialize?

[plainjane]

Agreed unless you like spamming memes that make no sense this place sucks for conversation. It's not what people are here for.

I second that. I can't make heads or tails of some of the threads sometimes

 

[bingbear]

Too many people online think there are no consequences to anything they say. It may usually be true, but not always. This tends to bring out the worst in people without consideration of all the others that are participating.

I also find that people that share one aspect of my life, do not mesh with the rest. This is true here and IRL. It is rare for me to find someone that likes the same music and the same movies, so I end up with transactional friends that I meet for a movie and another for talking about music.

 

[User_120321]

I'm slower than other people in communication because of overthinking and this creates a lot of awkward silence

 

[Deleted member 97862]

im kinda loner like and dont socialise much, but the again I don't make much effort to socialise so its probs my fault lol#

 

[bv220040]

I find it difficult to hold conversions and everybody i know has had different interests than me so there's not a lot to talk about.

 

[Karamchad]

That is one loaded question. Thank God I don't need to project.
Hope your life gets better.

 

[SmashyPants]

That is one loaded question. Thank God I don't need to project.
Hope your life gets better.

I mean, that's not, NOT true. At least I'm in good company here.

 

[Xypher]

Busy with life and prefer socializing with people I'm familiar with.

 

[User_120739]

I can socialize well enough, I'm just soo out of touch lol.

 

[Bangcoaches]

I lot of the time I suck at conversations and don't know what topic to talk about.

 

[User_120869]

Well I have ADHD so i can't stop talking when i'm exited. It helps me talk to a lot a people. But i find making friends extremely difficult because i can't give two shits if something don't interest me and i'm always speaking my mind. I'm also a loud speaker lol my boss told me to STFU today cuz he could hear me across the office floor.

 

[herelooking027]

It takes years to make a good friend because you start off in different places and gradually move together. I have had them but lost them over time for different reasons.

 

[vozek]

So, like some others, I came here to lurk. I don't know what to say to all the rest of you internet weirdos, and I'm blatantly making this topic to farm LC points.
That being said, it's a valid question, and something I might want to talk about.

My first reason, I don't really care what other people think, or how they think about me.
Life is both incredible and pointless, so it's easy for me to hardly give two shits.
I'm sure to some extent I do care, but not enough to be bothered by it all.

A second reason, socializing can be tough. It's not enough there are infinite ways for people to be, but also infinite ways to please, probe, pressure and placate to their whims.
The pros and cons of having friends certainly leans heavily towards the pros side, but I frequently find myself feeling like it's easier to remain isolated.
But if 'My Little Pony' has taught me anything,.. say it with me everyone,.. "Friendship is Magic".

Last reason, for now is, I'd rather not share myself with just anyone. Not that I feel like I have much to share anyway, but I like thinking I know the answers to all life's questions,
and am secretly waiting for the right moment to enlighten someone with that one piece of information that changes everything for them.
However, I'm probably just another idiot, talking bullshit on the internet, and actually has no fucking clue what I'm saying, or why.

If you'd read this far, I'm sorry for having waisted the most recent moment of your precious meaningless life.

When I was growing up, I had a lot of "friends". Then I grew up a bit more and found out, that a lot of them were my friends just to use me and not give anything in exchange. So I cut them off, then I had only 5 friends left. Then I opened a company and hired one of them. Well, he fucked me up good for a very small capital gain on his side. Then I was f... up financially for several years and only my wife helped me to get out of it. I had suicidal thoughts at that time. Well, no "friend" helped me in that time, it was only me and my wife and then I just decided, that I will cut contact with them and try out how I would manage without them. Well, I'm in a good place now, with my wife at my side and closer with my close relatives then I ever was. I don't need "friends" anymore, I have a lot of acquaintances now. But no one actually gets to know what I really think and do except my wife.

 

[Zilcho]

Most people are best kept at arms' length or beyond. At the same time, coming into that personal space and being genuine opens up tremendous opportunities for those willing to take them. Had I decided to capitalize on even a few of them, I'd be a very rich man today. As it stands, I have a few good friends, and I love my family. Money is an issue, but not as much as it could be. Times have been very hard, they're better now, they could be hard again. It is what it is.

 

[lcarrow]

I have about 5 good friends with a few less frequent acquaintances I'll see regularly and I socialise great with them but will actively try and avoid larger gatherings like weddings for no reason other than the fact socialising with people I don't see myself meeting ever again is just exhausting

 

[Deleted member 123057]

im in a part of my life where the same friends i saw all the time, i now rarely see so that tends to strain relationships, however i do try to keep in contact

 

[User_120739]

I tend to dissociate quite a bit, I can socialize but at any point it feels like a facade that I have to put in effort.
Then I become all anti-social again. I've gotten used to being alone so it feels weird when I'm not. I see everyone as some kind of thing that exists.
I like my friends because they seem to be aware of everything around them and themselves to the point where they will point out the absurd and make fun of themselves, I tend to do the same.
I might be difficult to be around too, I've considered that could be an issue.

 

[SegmentCoalescing]

I'm a loner in real life with very few online "friends" and I always feel out of place with nothing valuable to add to any conversation.

I've posted more on here than on other forums.

 

[katmoxxi]

As an introvert i get my energy from solitude

 

[vandura]

So, like some others, I came here to lurk. I don't know what to say to all the rest of you internet weirdos, and I'm blatantly making this topic to farm LC points.
That being said, it's a valid question, and something I might want to talk about.

You seem to possess more self-awareness than most. It's exceedingly rare these days, and there are too many mindless morons trying to bring you down to their level in the real world.