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[Paradigminant]

I guess if anyone else has any questions, feel free to ask. Certainly not the expert of experts, but I've done my homework and have a certain set of skills lol

 

[cbarnes1551]

All this bondage talk reminds me of that manga called nana & kaoru. It got me into bondage which then I found out that I'm not into it but it does talk about the background prep that goes into a bondage session. Totally recommend if anyone is interested and the art is pretty good

 

[Redyscom]

Oh yeah, now that I think of it, I wanted to share this with you guys. It's a huge template for choosing your favorite Pokémon by type, generation, legendary status, and so on. It has tons of options. I was filling it out with my brother.

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[Emily.Everson]

I like to consider a blindfold and and being strapped to the bed while my vanilla ass gets a light slap as BSDM, but I'd get a full blown panic attack if I attempted the things the real crowd talks about. Some stories can be quite hot though. Fantasy and Reality rarely fit together well.

 

[Redyscom]

I like to consider a blindfold and and being strapped to the bed while my vanilla ass gets a light slap as BSDM, but I'd get a full blown panic attack if I attempted the things the real crowd talks about. Some stories can be quite hot though. Fantasy and Reality rarely fit together well.

True, it's more fun to talk about the good parts and when everything goes well than to talk about the reality where things don't usually go so well.

 

[Paradigminant]

I like to consider a blindfold and and being strapped to the bed while my vanilla ass gets a light slap as BSDM, but I'd get a full blown panic attack if I attempted the things the real crowd talks about. Some stories can be quite hot though. Fantasy and Reality rarely fit together well.

That absolutely qualifies. A blindfold is one of my favorite things. You don't just start extreme. You build up to it. Obviously not everything can or should be attempted, but with the right person, you can make quite a bit of fantasy real, or real enough.

 

[uBfUZJjR1V]

Sorry to burst your bubble, but they removed the donation, or what we called the trading, feature a while back. Long-time members and mods would sometimes see if you were trustworthy and give you enough to buy Member+ right away. I got like three offers myself, lol. People here gave when they could, which they can’t do anymore since the feature got removed.

Oh well… I guess they made it harder for a reason. It sounds like it used to be much easier to get Member+ in the past, but I just have to keep up the grind.

 

[Redyscom]

That absolutely qualifies. A blindfold is one of my favorite things. You don't just start extreme. You build up to it. Obviously not everything can or should be attempted, but with the right person, you can make quite a bit of fantasy real, or real enough.

Well... the blindfold is pretty vanilla, but being tied to a bed and spanked—that definitely qualifies as BDSM. The blindfold is just there to add the tension and suspense of not knowing what, when, or where the contact will come from; it enhances the sensation.

 

[Paradigminant]

Well... the blindfold is pretty vanilla, but being tied to a bed and spanked—that definitely qualifies as BDSM. The blindfold is just there to add the tension and suspense of not knowing what, when, or where the contact will come from; it enhances the sensation.

Sensory enhancement, suspense, one tiny bit of giving up control. It might be a 1 on the BDSM scale, but it can turn a 3 into a 7. It's about what it does to the extended foreplay/warmup period. Plus it's cheap, portable, etc lol. Just a lot of bang for the buck with a blindfold.

 

[Redyscom]

Sensory enhancement, suspense, one tiny bit of giving up control. It might be a 1 on the BDSM scale, but it can turn a 3 into a 7. It's about what it does to the extended foreplay/warmup period. Plus it's cheap, portable, etc lol. Just a lot of bang for the buck with a blindfold.

Yep, sensory deprivation is pretty good if you don't want to—or are afraid to—take things further. I can't say that's the case for me, because my friend has a choking fetish, and that was my introduction to hardcore BDSM.
Damn her, I was so happy in the vanilla world, and she had to drag me into all that...

 

[Paradigminant]

Yep, sensory deprivation is pretty good if you don't want to—or are afraid to—take things further. I can't say that's the case for me, because my friend has a choking fetish, and that was my introduction to hardcore BDSM.
Damn her, I was so happy in the vanilla world, and she had to drag me into all that...

Haha yeah, it's hard to go back once you realize just how much fun territory there is to explore. For me it's the depth of trust/connection, how important communication is, etc. And yeah, the sex obviously lol.

 

[Xakorik]

There are some good BDSM based manga.

 

[Emily.Everson]

Who knew that a 1 off dwarven beard joke would get so heart warming and mushy about the trust involved in chokeing out your partner...

 

[Paradigminant]

Who knew that a 1 off dwarven beard joke would get so heart warming and mushy about the trust involved in chokeing out your partner...

You. I'm onto you. This was your secret plot all along. And I approve. Also, choking OUT is a no-no for me. I'll give someone some tingles, but they're staying conscious. Just too risky.

 

[Redyscom]

You. I'm onto you. This was your secret plot all along. And I approve. Also, choking OUT is a no-no for me. I'll give someone some tingles, but they're staying conscious. Just too risky.

I remember choking her until she passed out two or three times. The first time she got scared, but she liked it, and the other times were just because she ended up enjoying it, hahaha.
Although I personally didn't really like it—it's way too risky. I know first aid and what to do in an emergency, but that's exactly why I know it's so risky to do.

 

[Paradigminant]

I remember choking her until she passed out two or three times. The first time she got scared, but she liked it, and the other times were just because she ended up enjoying it, hahaha.
Although I personally didn't really like it—it's way too risky. I know first aid and what to do in an emergency, but that's exactly why I know it's so risky to do.

Yeah, part of being responsible is knowing that despite all our skills/knowledge/preparation.... sometimes shit just happens. Not willing to let my partner be seriously injured/die, so some things are just off the table, no matter how calculated the risk.

 

[Emily.Everson]

I remember choking her until she passed out two or three times. The first time she got scared, but she liked it, and the other times were just because she ended up enjoying it, hahaha.
Although I personally didn't really like it—it's way too risky. I know first aid and what to do in an emergency, but that's exactly why I know it's so risky to do.

I've done enough judo to have been there and know that it is not what I want in bed. I don't really find air chokes scary anymore, but its not pleasant in the slightes. And a proper blood choke is pointless, get all hot and bothered then out in seconds....

 

[Paradigminant]

Plus so many people don't know how to properly choke someone. Again, research, practice, etc.
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I've done enough judo to have been there and know that it is not what I want in bed. I don't really find air chokes scary anymore, but its not pleasant in the slightes. And a proper blood choke is pointless, get all hot and bothered then out in seconds....

Air chokes are dangerous, that's not sexual choking. It's a blood choke, but you're not clamping down. You're limiting, not cutting off bloodflow. Riding that line.

 

[Redyscom]

Yeah, part of being responsible is knowing that despite all our skills/knowledge/preparation.... sometimes shit just happens. Not willing to let my partner be seriously injured/die, so some things are just off the table, no matter how calculated the risk.

Yeah, that's scary. Even if things went poorly in a way that didn't lead to death, imagine trying to explain that to someone.

I know.
Just as an anecdote, I think it was the second time—when she actually asked me outright to knock her out—that I really panicked when she lost consciousness. I slapped her really hard to wake her up, then I scolded her for a long time for asking me to do that.
Even so, we did it a couple more times, hahaha. I remember clearly that she told me I was a hypocrite.

But yeah, it's damn dangerous, we did it because we trust each other completely.

 

[Emily.Everson]

Air chokes are dangerous, that's not sexual choking. It's a blood choke, but you're not clamping down. You're limiting, not cutting off bloodflow. Riding that line.

I mean, yeah if you pressing hard enough to actually break something (I guess heat of the moment and all), you can cut off air supply way before then. One of the things I learned in judo was that the body panics way more about an air choke (extremely uncomfortable), which you have plenty of time to think and resolve your way through, than a blood choke which will only be mildly uncomfortable then lights out. Resisting the panic and freeing the space to countermove was a thing for air chokes, blood chokes was desperate move then tap.