discussion Why don't you like to socialize?

[_F_]

There are so many better things to waste time on instead of socializing.
Because lets be honest, you won't change anyone's life or even opinion here. We won't become bffs or share anything personal. We are just screaming into the void for the entertainment of others.

 

[yurilover32]

Being social to strangers online is a whole different game than being social with classmates or work friends

 

[DragonsFear]

my reason why i hate to socialise

lets just say , in the past i did have alot of "friends"
but had a working accident, and soon realised that friends are nothing more than just in the name, just aslong as you are healthy
so that pretty much sums it up why i don't really give a F these days about "friends"

 

[ayylmao13]

because i like myself

 

[USER_6969]

Because I'm shy...

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[SmashyPants]

Oh fun! I sparked a thread. Go Me!
Seriously though, we're all on this site, looking for 'Restricted' games, jumping through hoops to make finding them easier.

I gotta say, regardless of whatever contribution this thread makes, I can't be grateful enough to the people who put this site up, maintain it, and populate it with wonderful new art.
The granny porn ad's are disturbing though.

 

[ACWBOY]

My spelling sucks and if I look long enough someone will say something close to what i would anyway

 

[User_2553]

I just don't like people that much. I think it comes from working in the restaurant business for too long.

 

[JadedSkywalker]

I had two really great friends who weren't co-workers. One turned out to be a thief, and the other got married and we lost contact. I know his folks but haven't spoken to them in something like 20 years. I haven't spoken to my dad in about the same amount of time give or take ten years, i was very busy. Still am, not as much work but personal things like caring for my mom. We don't get together on Christmas or Thanksgiving. All my nieces and nephews except for the youngest are on social media but i'm not. The oldest nephew is visiting me in the Summer he is in his 20's i have literally nothing to talk about with him, i'm Gen X i don't get post Millennials. So okay maybe he liked some of the anime and movies i introduced him to, but that is about it.

 

[miniboss]

I've been told before that I leave a poor first impression with people so I think I just kind of internalized that and stay within my personal small clique of friends.

 

[bogmoll]

I just don't like people that much. I think it comes from working in the restaurant business for too long.

Same here 20 years in resturants make you hate most people

 

[JadedSkywalker]

I've been told before that I leave a poor first impression with people so I think I just kind of internalized that and stay within my personal small clique of friends.

Rely on those who are steadfast and you can trust. Hard to find these days, believe me.

 

[greyvice]

I know this

So, like some others, I came here to lurk. I don't know what to say to all the rest of you internet weirdos, and I'm blatantly making this topic to farm LC points.
That being said, it's a valid question, and something I might want to talk about.

My first reason, I don't really care what other people think, or how they think about me.
Life is both incredible and pointless, so it's easy for me to hardly give two shits.
I'm sure to some extent I do care, but not enough to be bothered by it all.

A second reason, socializing can be tough. It's not enough there are infinite ways for people to be, but also infinite ways to please, probe, pressure and placate to their whims.
The pros and cons of having friends certainly leans heavily towards the pros side, but I frequently find myself feeling like it's easier to remain isolated.
But if 'My Little Pony' has taught me anything,.. say it with me everyone,.. "Friendship is Magic".

Last reason, for now is, I'd rather not share myself with just anyone. Not that I feel like I have much to share anyway, but I like thinking I know the answers to all life's questions,
and am secretly waiting for the right moment to enlighten someone with that one piece of information that changes everything for them.
However, I'm probably just another idiot, talking bullshit on the internet, and actually has no fucking clue what I'm saying, or why.

If you'd read this far, I'm sorry for having waisted the most recent moment of your precious meaningless life.

I know you're "making this topic to farm LC points" but it's actually an interesting topic! If I'm gonna be forced to talk about shit to get my LCs, I appreciate talking about interesting stuff at least. I think of myself as pretty social but being social in real life and posting on (let's face it) a porn games site are very different things. I just want to get off. I don't want to talk to a bunch of people that are also looking to get off. It's fucking weird guys! Knowing that you're here and I'm here to fucking fap and look at renders of naked people fucking and now we have to talk and pretend like we're all just here to hang out is bizzare

 

[skully2397]

I wouldn't say that I'm anti-social. I just prefer talking face-to-face with people.

 

[User_80256]

What socialization when you have dozens of students passing through you every day

 

[battlemercy]

lazy

 

[FatdogMendoza]

I do enjoy socializing with the right people, close friends are definitely way easier to socialize with of course.

The challenge comes from being an introvert of course. Josh Strife Hayes (RPG streamer, pretty fun streams) put it in a really good way - introvert vs extrovert is more about how you recharge energy. Introverts recharge energy when they're alone, and they need to spend energy to socialize. The energy cost of socializing can be dependent on how draining the activity is or how close you are with the person, but the enjoyment you get out of it can be surprisingly high still. It's just about managing that energy budget at that point.

 

[Olive]

just gave up trying to connect with people tbh, too much work for nothing in return

 

[Djehuty]

I'm not good at it. I don't connect with people. It's exhausting to a fault. And I haven't really cared for the most part of my life.

 

[Eric Graham]

I really like hanging out with people IRL. But sometimes its tiring and you need to recharge your "social battery"