The very origin of the word is linked to loss. The Japanese word originates from “loser.”
netoru (寝取る): 寝 = to lie down, to sleep (in this case, to have sex); 取 = to take, to steal, to assume, to seize; る = husband, wife, someone’s partner.To sexually steal someone’s (wife or husband).
So NTR is always related to loss. What changes is the agent of that loss:
- Netorare: another person is the agent of the loss
- Netorase: the partner themselves is the initiator of their own loss
- Netori or Netore: you cause the loss of another person for yourself
That’s the summary. There are more variations, but they are not important as fetishes.
Uwaki is used when there is no loss — the person never finds out about the cheating, or doesn’t care, or forgives without any loss or humiliation.
Among the cuckold fetishes we have versions with and without humiliation.
With humiliation
- Netorase, Netorare, Netori
- Cuckold Training = Progressive training for the man to accept/share his partner
Humiliation is optional. The relationship dynamic may involve humiliation.
- Hotwife = The wife has the freedom to have sex with other men without romantic involvement; she decides with whom, how, and when.
- Sharing = One of the partners has a fixed romantic or sexual relationship with another person.
- Cuckquean = The wife enjoys watching her husband with other women. She can be passive with humiliation, or active (she seeks partners, participates sexually, does not accept being humiliated, and is the dominant one who controls the sexual dynamic and humiliates the other women).
- Free Use = The wife is available for sex at any time with anyone; she cannot refuse partners.
Without
- Harem = One person with several partners who are faithful to them. Although the MC is not a cuckold, the other partners are.
- Polyamory = One person with several partners, and those partners may have other partners in common or outside, all consensual and everyone knows about everyone.
- Swingers = Couples exchange partners reciprocally; orgy of couples.
- Stag/Vixen = The dominant cuckold. The wife is submissive, the husband decides with whom the wife will have sexual relations, controls the sexual dynamic, may participate or not, and does not accept humiliation.
I like it without humiliation, but usually the games always end up leading to humiliation and the MCs end up being dumb and pathetic guys who can’t sexually satisfy the women, so they have to go with other guys and the humiliation starts. And the content ends up going into netorase or netorare.