discussion Having sex wasn't what I expected

[jinxed]

I started watching porn from a young age and as I grow up I started to think sex must have feel really amazing and all that untill I had sex when I was 17 I mean it was good but wasn't what I expected maybe it's the porn anyone else had similar experience?

 

[Lock/Start/Sto]

I started watching porn from a young age and as I grow up I started to think sex must have feel really amazing and all that untill I had sex when I was 17 I mean it was good but wasn't what I expected maybe it's the porn anyone else had similar experience?

Yes, I feel you. I think porn is to an extent harmful to human relations.
If you let me be candid with you, focus sex in real life, if you have the willpower.

 

[jinxed]

Yes, I feel you. I think porn is to an extent harmful to human relations.
If you let me be candid with you, focus sex in real life, if you have the willpower.

Yea I agree I'm thinking of cutting porn to minimum and cutting it off completely off after getting into a healthy relationship

 

[bodacious hill]

Damn, been getting those youtube ads that talk about steps to help prevent pron watching.

 

[USER_6969]

I started watching porn from a young age and as I grow up I started to think sex must have feel really amazing and all that untill I had sex when I was 17 I mean it was good but wasn't what I expected maybe it's the porn anyone else had similar experience?

I am from a time when porn wasn't as accessible as it is now, in the 80's there was no internet, my first sex experience wasn't great, because my dick was so sore afterwards. It did not put me off and now I have been sexually active for 44 years. Porn is not a great representation of real life sex, porn is there purely for fap material, to really enjoy sex you need a real partner.

 

[IFF01]

I hadn't been watching porn prior to my first experience so no it wasn't weird or different for me

 

[Samp1eText]

When you jerking off to porn, you only care of yourself, with temp and speed comfortable for you and only you. Having sex you must think about your partner also, which may bring some nervousness, which lowers the sensations.

You can't feel all the pleasure untill you're truly comfortable with your partner.

 

[User_151521]

I really think porn is one of the greatest bane of this world. Its separate love from sex. Its reduce woman to be a sexual object of our lust. The more you will use it, the less you will satisfied from real sex and the lest you will be able to be intimate with girls. You will become more and more dependant as time pass and you will need see more and more perverted image to satisfy you. Finaly you risk to check woman on the street as sexual object . So my advice.:Quit that as soon as possible. Dont wait like me that its become my opium

 

[Vidilo]

Well, I didn't expect to have sex when it first happened. And it was beyond amazing. I had fantasized about sex, but reality was so much better! And still is.

True, sex with some women after my first was a bit of a letdown. But then my cousin was a tough act to follow. Luckily my wife is just as amazing in bed as my cousin was, if not even more so. So actual sex is still way better than porn.

If only I weren't away from home so much, I probably wouldn't need porn at all.

 

[HandholdDegen]

Sex is only as good as you make it, some say. But sex is also only as good as your partner wants to make it too.
Therefore I usually find that the sum of these two parts leave something to be desired.

Sex is nice, but it so often doesn't outweigh the time and effort required to get there.
I'm sure it is different if you're in a relationship with someone who is more sexually driven, but that's not my experience so far.

Unfortunately, Sex is still very much a badge of honor in society, so choosing to not actively partake makes you a pariah.

 

[Karamchad]

Damn bro, sorry to hear that.
Some girls very mediocre, but mostly will be good or fantastic and very close to what you see on the internet.
Don't let that beat you down, you probably had a bad first hand.

 

[truetrue]

Not unusual, there's a lot of men and women that have high expectations then after their first time they were like "so that was it". There's lots of different reasons for this to happen from over hyped from social expectations, unrealistic expectations from watching porn, inexperience limiting the pleasure.
When it comes to porn's role, it's just like anything else. Used right it could be an aid or temporary substitute, used wrong it can be a harmful addiction.

 

[gehrero]

If I remember correctly, I was let down because I expected more, but it was still good enough that I wanted a lot more and we fucked like rabbits for a couple of years. Porn wasn't as prevalent at that time, but it did not change much for me anyway, it was my head, my fantasies that build up expectations about sex. To this day, blowjobs just must feel fantastic in my mind and anal sex should feel much tighter and more intense, right? Well, no. At least not with the very limited number of women I've been with.

Nowadays though, there's a much higher variety and amount of porn available. My kinks have always strayed into areas that are not possible or practicable in real life. AI allows me to create customized porn that just didn't exist before (celebrities, morally reprehensible kinks, physical impossibilites) and I assume in a few years creating porn vids will be just as easy. This has diminished my interest in real sex quite a bit and is becoming a bit of a problem in my relationship. Personally, I'm not sure how to feel about it. On one hand, a real relationship with a real human being should be more important, on the other, fapping to my customized fantasies just feels better most of the time. I guess, if your dream is a "normal" life with a wife and a family, I'd suggest you try to limit your porn consumption and do not stray too far from vanilla themes.

 

[katori]

It will never be, a girlfrined normaly only use 3 positions, a prostitute uses 17 different positions, but none of then have a perfect body like 2d girls...

 

[User_111574]

I agree with many of those who left comments above. Real life is real life, it will not be replaced by porn videos or games that are offered for download here. In the case of games, I don't understand at all how drawn perchonages can arouse sexual interest in principle. For me, these games are a means to relieve psychological tension after a hard day's work. That's why I love sandboxes, calmly click soap, click-click. As for porn videos - sometimes we watch them in pairs with my wife, to create the appropriate (you get it) mood.
My first sexual experience was also not very impressive, but later everything got better. The most important thing is to believe in yourself and try to pay less attention to XXX content on the Internet.

 

[s45636526]

It was more after sex that was confusing for me.

 

[csi_denver]

I am from a time when porn wasn't as accessible as it is now, in the 80's there was no internet, my first sex experience wasn't great, because my dick was so sore afterwards. It did not put me off and now I have been sexually active for 44 years. Porn is not a great representation of real life sex, porn is there purely for fap material, to really enjoy sex you need a real partner.

Yeah i'm from the 80's as well, but to be fair? don't learn sex from watching porn on this kinda thing on the site, don't think you need to know it all, ask the person what they like, what gets them of, NEWSFLASH, people play with them self, they prob know at least a little bit about what makes them feel good

 

[csi_denver]

It was more after sex that was confusing for me.

Ok al bite, Why is that?

 

[csi_denver]

Well, I didn't expect to have sex when it first happened. And it was beyond amazing. I had fantasized about sex, but reality was so much better! And still is.

True, sex with some women after my first was a bit of a letdown. But then my cousin was a tough act to follow. Luckily my wife is just as amazing in bed as my cousin was, if not even more so. So actual sex is still way better than porn.

If only I weren't away from home so much, I probably wouldn't need porn at all.

Family does make it better doesn't it?, i remember my first time, Dang we had no clue what we where doing, but we sure learned allot together and it's prob just in my head? I miss it, and when i get get to the finish line these day. 10 second memories of back will doing it every single time lol

 

[s45636526]

Ok al bite, Why is that?

I guess before my first time I had a lot of brain fog if that's the right way to describe it. When that cleared up, it felt like something that didn't live up to the hype. Now several years later, I think it's just normal