discussion What makes a friendship

[dickness all around]

people change over the years, even good nice people might turn into idiots or drunks. in one of those vn games you and your wife would be fucking everyone's brains out. sadly real life is less fun, and despite you wanting to keep as many friends as you can, it will not always work. sometimes you will lose a friend or two, in most cases it's for the best. a friend worth to keep is a friend you can be civil with and talk to no matter how angry or emotional they are at that certain time.

I have a rule to keep my emotions in check, I can ask someone to give me some time because I need some alone time, that's cool. but I will never scream or curse someone else, I don't this done to me so I make sure to keep myself calm at all times. a good friend could lose his entire family to a car crash, and still allow you to talk to him and maybe tell a joke. he might get upsad a bit you're not taking his lose seriously but he won't turn into a dick and treat you like shit because he's having a bad day. my example was over the top stupid but you get my meaning.

 

[zark]

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[zark]

Ummmm...What???

It's a flag.

 

[zark]

Yeah, so?

You didn't include any text information with your picture of "a flag".

And what does it have to do with "what makes a friendship"?

I'm just putting up the flag that I think works best with the story.

 

[dereguedeixe]

I had a teacher that told us that a friend is someone who show up when you sick, and today, thats is something that i take really serious

 

[zark]

What "story"?

The one at the start of the thread.


"Here’s a crazy short story. I had a group of friends me and my wife played dnd with for years now. We never discuss politics because we don’t thinks it’s a friendly subject with friends. After years of being friends they saw a flag my roommate put up in the hallway and all of the sudden, “hey ( ) we can’t be friends anymore. Because of the flag.”…. Why throw away years of friendships just because of a political belief. We never talk about it or try to put our agenda on someone else. It saddens me and my wife that we lost our group of friends we hanged out with on an almost daily basis. What’s your guys thoughts on the matter? Do you let politics drive your friendships? Or do you put your differences to the side and make a connection?

Alright for clarification cause I can see some holes in the story. Yes my roommate did put up the flag. Yes my wife and I don’t care and we thought the flag was cool. No it does not represent hate or evil in anyway. Yes we’ve listened to their politics in the past with our friends and knew their point of view but we didn’t judge them. Yes we were friends for years and we didn’t care for politics or religion to divide our friendship. My main question is, “is it right to judge people based on their beliefs.” And we are excluding all radical beliefs. They’ve been to our house numerous of times so this is a recent thing"

 

[HandholdDegen]

True friendship is when my boi dresses up all girl-like and we, as a joke, go on dates and hold hands and meet each other's parents and make plans for the future and get married and adopt some kids and make memories together and retire together in the log cabin out in the sticks by the lake and reminisce about the good times we had. As a joke, tho. Friendship is all about the laughs and stuff..

Wait... ... ...

 

[Ribaso]

Ideological conformity, which is the reason dogs have been termed man's best friend; dogs tend to copy their guardians.

 

[animgirl]

Just be friendly and join different communities of interest

 

[fllyn]

Realistically? Shared experiences and interests. Which is why most friendships develop in school, college, university (and workplaces) or the military. Lots and lots and lots of time spent together, at least some shared interests usually.

Also why many break up or slowly die afterwards, once that shared space and time ends and actually needs conscious effort from both sides to be maintained.

 

[IFF01]

In my opinion friendship should be based on how you treat others. Although it is nice to have things in common you will never agree with everything.

 

[upbutte]

Because of constant change, I enjoy friendships in the now with no attachment to staying friends in the future.

 

[herelooking027]

Here’s a crazy short story. I had a group of friends me and my wife played dnd with for years now. We never discuss politics because we don’t thinks it’s a friendly subject with friends. After years of being friends they saw a flag my roommate put up in the hallway and all of the sudden, “hey ( ) we can’t be friends anymore. Because of the flag.”…. Why throw away years of friendships just because of a political belief. We never talk about it or try to put our agenda on someone else. It saddens me and my wife that we lost our group of friends we hanged out with on an almost daily basis. What’s your guys thoughts on the matter? Do you let politics drive your friendships? Or do you put your differences to the side and make a connection?

Alright for clarification cause I can see some holes in the story. Yes my roommate did put up the flag. Yes my wife and I don’t care and we thought the flag was cool. No it does not represent hate or evil in anyway. Yes we’ve listened to their politics in the past with our friends and knew their point of view but we didn’t judge them. Yes we were friends for years and we didn’t care for politics or religion to divide our friendship. My main question is, “is it right to judge people based on their beliefs.” And we are excluding all radical beliefs. They’ve been to our house numerous of times so this is a recent thing

Being friends is about identifying more with the friend than with the rest of the world. Big things like politics are strong connections to the rest of the world, so you can feel like good friends with someone until you find out that they are connected to a different world than you and they don't want to change that connection. It's similar to how some people can love a game until they find it has NTR and then they quit and never play again.

People want to keep friends they have so most people won't just quit over a single thing and will try to talk and make a middle ground or compromise. Even politics differences used to be something that people could talk about, but now politics is a much deeper connection to the world and has much bigger consequences. Differences between political groups weren't so big 10 years ago, and were smaller 20 years ago, and were smaller than that 30 years ago. If you go back to the 60s and 70s the political divide gets big again. People today are just used to 1980s and 1990s (or maybe early 2000s) political differences, so breaking friendship over it seems like a shock. But actually breaking differences was the normal longer in the past. But in the past people also usually lived close to people who were similar so they didn't make friends across politics to begin with.