discussion Have you shared your less...mainstream fetishes/kinks with a SO or friends? If so, how'd it come up and how'd it go?

[genzee42]

There's not a chance that I would.

 

[chrisridley]

Nope. I only shared the most "normal" fetishes with a friend who shares similar fetishes. I keep the darker for myself and my AI.

 

[WigglyWorld84]

nope, and never will. You can't unring a bell.

 

[Republican Bear]

That's weird. I'm not a fan of closed section games, rather an opponent, but we don't prosecute for possession of such materials. Sex with minors is a serious offense, often up to life in prison. For sexual violence against children and teenagers - firing squad. Incest is punishable by termination of parental rights.
But if you electronically store anything, even a full-fledged PTHC, nobody cares.

Not were I live and I wont mention where either. Just ask Westy how his life was ruined in Australia for a lolicon game.

Heck I've seen people go to court over artworks and comics. If you have actual PTHC your going to jail for at least five years.

 

[malvius]

absolutely not, that is between me and my grave

 

[Deleted member 53635]

Yes with one of my friend. He said "im disgusting but not suprised". I was so proud of myself.

 

[bulliedhealer]

My SO is aware of all but one of my... preferences/fetishes. I was very up front about that, my financial situation, health and etc. when we got together.

 

[SegmentCoalescing]

Nope. Never done that and not planning to do so either.

 

[Silwith]

Sure, some friends do know some, my little sister knows them all and in the relationships that were actually serious and lasted I told them too.
But obviously neither of those was a first day thing, I knew that it wouldn't be too much of a issue with them, even if they may find parts disgusting themselves xD

 

[Aba]

Can someone tell me what a SO is?

 

[SegmentCoalescing]

Can someone tell me what a SO is?

Significant Other

 

[Artarion]

Never shared what i like to people close to me and i think i never will

 

[Ripowar]

Some harmless ... "interests", sure, I told her.
But most of what I like in the games here, she probably would never understand.
High risk, no reward in telling.

If she would have the courage to share a kink with me that's on my secret list, I would gladly talk to her about it without restriction.
But that didn't happen in the years we are together ... so I guess it will never happen.

 

[bulliedhealer]

All but one or two my SO is aware of, we're very open with each other. We share passwords, email accounts, everything. We both have thumbprint access and passcode access to each other's devices.

 

[Hobobobb]

I'm French... for those who don't know what that means.

It means my partner (wife in my case) knows everything.

I literally, and I am not joking, had to tell my wife expressly what I was "NOT" willing to try, to set the boundaries.
Not that she was some sex fiend (we have been together since she was 14 and I was 16) which is like 30+ years now, she was (and is) just very upfront and open about discussing sexual things.

Put another way, I frequent a porn site, in my home office, where she can walk in anytime and see what I am doing... and I'm the "vanilla one".

My advice, be honest and upfront with your partner.

 

[Coretherius]

Yes, and she shared hers with me. It was a good relationship for many years. Then she ghosted me when my father got sick.

 

[Deleted member 112555]

Fuck no.
I keep my sex life and my normal life as far a part is possible.

 

[springer]

Yes with a s/o. That’s part of being in a serious relationship. But not with friends. I don’t see the point in that. I’m not looking for a jerk off buddy or something like that.

 

[FloridaNed]

I have with friends, SOs, strangers on the internet. A kink is nothing to be ashamed of, and mine are, while not vanilla, also not damaging in a social situation.

 

[KantamaroSan]

I'm pretty sure that a lot of people wouldn't believe me when I say there's a world of difference between fantasy and reality.
For example, if I were to have an impregnation kink (fantasy), I do not want to get my partner pregnant.
I've read a story about that kink in particular blowing up in someones face because the girl could not fathom that it might just be the idea of impregnation, and she broke off the relationship because she thought he would secretly try to impregnate her. Sure this is an anecdote, but how do you even put feelers out to discuss something like that...