discussion Having sex wasn't what I expected

[aktcva]

Well sex in games and porn is more of an "art" that is made to be beautiful and look good. Even in porn video films actors are clearly simulating their "feelings from it". So reality is a cruel joke. That's why some people are relaxing online from it. Cause they are tired from disappointments. Cause from online, games, good porn - you getting more "joy".

"Healthy relations" will not help you too much. Yes it is a good thing to have. But there will be another "disappointment" - you will still feel that something inside you is still empty and you just want to fill it up with "not serious" things like porn. Majority of people even in marriage and after it still watch porn. It can't be helped. Sometimes you need "release your tension" even if you have sex in relationships with someone.

That's like when only books existed. They were rare and when people read them - they were like "traveling" in their mind to another life story and enjoyed it. I mean to find a goooood content is also pretty rare nowadays when we have tons of it. And yet you still cant find the thing you are looking for. But when you find it - it's like a birthday party.

 

[csi_denver]

I guess before my first time I had a lot of brain fog if that's the right way to describe it. When that cleared up, it felt like something that didn't live up to the hype. Now several years later, I think it's just normal

OHHHHH ok, yeah sounds normal, i kinda became addicted to, how good it felt being inside well you know, i didn't have much of a clue as to what i was doing but we both actually liked it lol

 

[greey12]

first time is always weird
find a kink partner and do the things you see in porn or someone who you really like to be with
when you have a low skilled partner but loves him/her its always good

tip: the kisses and touches gives a very good indicator of how good it will be

 

[MelkhiorDB]

My own experience was similar, very idealized vision of losing my virginity, first time was just pure paranoia that "even with a condom, something will go wrong and she'll get pregnant", safe to say didn't enjoy it.

 

[User_88762]

I think basing real life expectations on fiction, porn in this case, will always leave you disappointed. Porn, in any form, is not meant to be a realistic representation of what real sexual relations are like. It is a spectacle, nothing more, nothing less.

 

[otrdriver]

Wait till youre so used to porn that you go full circle and a loving husband and wife fornicating in the missionary position turns into your kink.

 

[captainteemo]

it's just hyped up, not that great especially when you have your first pregnancy scare lmao

 

[fthegovernment]

how many children are members of this 18+ website ?

 

[darkstealler]

let me find my partners 1st

 

[chocolate52]

It's like a polished movie.

 

[Peter]

The first time for both of us, I was lucky that we climaxed at the same time, so you can imagine that it was great.
But when she told me afterwards that she would have preferred to wait longer before having sex, it ruined it for me.
I felt somewhat guilty, even though I hadn't pressured her into anything.

 

[Peter]

If I remember correctly, I was let down because I expected more, but it was still good enough that I wanted a lot more and we fucked like rabbits for a couple of years. Porn wasn't as prevalent at that time, but it did not change much for me anyway, it was my head, my fantasies that build up expectations about sex. To this day, blowjobs just must feel fantastic in my mind and anal sex should feel much tighter and more intense, right? Well, no. At least not with the very limited number of women I've been with.

Nowadays though, there's a much higher variety and amount of porn available. My kinks have always strayed into areas that are not possible or practicable in real life. AI allows me to create customized porn that just didn't exist before (celebrities, morally reprehensible kinks, physical impossibilites) and I assume in a few years creating porn vids will be just as easy. This has diminished my interest in real sex quite a bit and is becoming a bit of a problem in my relationship. Personally, I'm not sure how to feel about it. On one hand, a real relationship with a real human being should be more important, on the other, fapping to my customized fantasies just feels better most of the time. I guess, if your dream is a "normal" life with a wife and a family, I'd suggest you try to limit your porn consumption and do not stray too far from vanilla themes.

If this prevents victims and no one else is harmed, then in my opinion it's perfectly fine.
You just have to be careful not to confuse fantasy with reality.
And you should always keep in mind that these are your own fantasies and not those of others.

 

[Peter]

how many children are members of this 18+ website ?

The Truth is out there.

Edited: Corrected typing error.
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[fthegovernment]

The Thruth is out there.

doesn't seem that way.........

there isn't even an "H" in "Truth"

 

[Peter]

doesn't seem that way.........

there isn't even an "H" in "Truth"

Sure, but you're right, it's only one thing.
Thanks for the hint!
I corrected it.


And it seems to me that......

i didn't like it al all

there isn't even an "l" in "at"

 

[fthegovernment]

Sure, but you're right, it's only one thing.
Thanks for the hint!
I corrected it.


And it seems to me that......



there isn't even an "l" in "at"

Thanks for the hint!
I corrected it.

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[Peter]

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As the topic "Having sex wasn't what I expected" suggests, but It was a pleasure.
I'll gladly do it again!

See You out there!

 

[pretz]

its to do with porn

 

[fthegovernment]

who in this thread is under 18 years old as of today ?

i mean is anyone in this thread going to have their 18th birthday after tomorrow ?

 

[sommerlager]

I never heard anyone say that their first time was the best time. It needs some practice and fidling around to find out how things work and what feels good.