Perhaps I represent an anomalous case, but given my extremely vanilla predilections (oral sex, vaginal sex, and, pardon me, foot fetish) I don't have anything to hide. I don't even tolerate anal sex. Not for any religious or other lofty reasons, I'm just rather squeamish. However, I do not discuss intimate matters with anyone except my wife. These are our family affairs, and they are nobody else's business. It also concerns our closest friends and even in conversations after a bottle or two of vodka drunk with those same friends.
But on a porn forum you can say that
That I play these types of games. It's completely compartmentalized. The tags of the games I play on here are not what I like or look for in real life, and for some of them I am completely disgusted if they happen in the real world.
The fact that I'm fascinated with incest is obviously not something I share with almost anyone IRL. The only person I actually discuss stuff like that with is my best friend and I've known her for almost 30 years now. I probably wouldn't have even told her, but a wild night, filled with alcohol and questionable decisions in our late teens took care of that...
My secret fetish that I won't tell anyone is that I watch porn. I won't even consider telling anyone I play porn games or like futa or incest. In other words, I'm not telling people shit irl. But here, I'm an open book
Well I'll tell you all but the only secret my wife doesn't know about it enjoying the Loli content. She knows about my futa/shemale fantasies ( and enjoys watching/roleplaying as well) .. she knows I watch beasty stuff that is animated (not into real beasty) .. Basically she knows everything.. besides that one SMALL detail lol
I think the ones I would least likely speak about are liking smolls and incest (though the latter is a fantasy kink, not an irl kink, as far as I can tell), I talked about both of them with friends. And a handful of fiends and colleagues "know" about me liking smolls (though I'm not sure how much my colleagues think I'm just joking about it). Still, some have plainly stated that even after all that has been said they would still trust me with their kids, as they know I would never harm any I think I'm lucky to have people I can at least jokingly share some kinks with without too much judgement
So, technically, I have no unshareable kink I could think of
When I found out I liked incest avns I told my friends thinking they would laugh at me for being a mega degen but they literally said,"Thats all you wanted to say? anways...." You would be surprised how many normal seeming people are accepting of weird shit, or have those fetishes themselves. Gotta still be careful who you tell though.