discussion How did you find out your kinks?

[s_l]

Hey people, I was wondering about this for some time.

Do you have some weird or maybe even embarassing moments, when you found out about some kinks/fetishes that you have? Not trying to find out about the standard "Found out when watching porn" ones, but some more specific, maybe even public ones. How was that, how did you feel in that situation?

For one of mine I found out when hanging with my classmate (who I didn't feel sexual about in that time), when she put her feet in on my lap and started to play with her feet. At first I couldn't even hide how it turned me on, but in the end she was quite amused by it.

 

[MrSunDragon]

Alot of them was exposer and the rest genetic. People will be surprised to know that alot of your kinks are surprisingly genetic and shared between family members

 

[someguy1178]

When I was 18 I had a girl who would always want to try new things. Some of them were not for me but it was fun to try things. At one point I was really drunk and thought I was going to finish but I ended up pissing on her and that was quite the experience. Too bad that was the end of that

 

[someguy1178]

Alot of them was exposer and the rest genetic. People will be surprised to know that alot of your kinks are surprisingly genetic and shared between family members

This implies things about my parents I’d rather not know

 

[Akathrowaway]

As fucked as it is, who would've guessed that when your first sexual experiences come from family members it causes you to develop an incest kink..

 

[MrSunDragon]

As fucked as it is, who would've guessed that when your first sexual experiences come from family members it causes you to develop an incest kink..

That's surprisingly more normal then what people want to admit.

 

[MrSunDragon]

This implies things about my parents I’d rather not know

I got it from my mama

 

[jedimaster666]

Hey people, I was wondering about this for some time.

Do you have some weird or maybe even embarassing moments, when you found out about some kinks/fetishes that you have? Not trying to find out about the standard "Found out when watching porn" ones, but some more specific, maybe even public ones. How was that, how did you feel in that situation?

For one of mine I found out when hanging with my classmate (who I didn't feel sexual about in that time), when she put her feet in on my lap and started to play with her feet. At first I couldn't even hide how it turned me on, but in the end she was quite amused by it.

There are some online quizzes you can take you can also create a FetLife. There is a community of people in the kink world. There are meetups to just meet people, and it is very diverse.

 

[scarlett]

my brother used to sneak into my room when I was members + young and put his hands inside my nightgown and encourage me to fiddle with him. he really liked pinching my clit which i never really enjoyed but this went on until he went to college and I was nearly 14. At college he met his wife and I've been searching for a similar feeling since.

 

[dionysus]

i think i was very close to having my brain rewired by fart videos on youtube as a kid. i liked looking them up and something about it interested me. fortunately i moved on from that quickly lol.
i also think i was psyoped into liking feet by the internet. it only started as a meme and now i am genuinely turned on by them. it makes you wonder, do our kinks find us or do we find them?

 

[s_l]

Wow, really glad to have such a number of replies I thought this will be overlooked and forgotten somewhere in the depths of this forum. Some of them made me think about it more in closely now

 

[RickS]

As fucked as it is, who would've guessed that when your first sexual experiences come from family members it causes you to develop an incest kink..

That's surprisingly more normal then what people want to admit.

Oh, I just remembered me playing family with my older cousin . There might be something to this theory.

 

[Floor_Cluwne]

I remember growing up around a lot of pregnant women and always feeling extremely awkward because of it until I hit puberty, at that point something in my brain clicked and that awkward feeling grew into what is now my primary fetish.
A handful of my secondary kinks where also acquired in a similar manner, I'd see something that seemed innocent and feel awkward whenever I thought about it, and then a proverbial coin would flip later in life and either develop into a fetish or an aversion.

 

[muschi26]

Never had anything happen to me in real life to cause an awakening. Everything that appeals to me, I've discovered because I happened across it while watching something else that happened to contain it and went, "Wait, that's not what I was here for, but that's kinda hot too."

 

[Deleted member 274432]

It is funny how our interests can be disconnected too. My kinks in most porn is so different from what I’m interested in in real life. I love watching bukkake, but honestly that sounds like an awful time. I’m way too antisocial

 

[SilentHunter]

According to the good old proven scheme: "being determines consciousness." Remember the classics of philosophy more often.

 

[garcia_8048]

I found out the more extreme kinks that I'm into from reading stories.

 

[gaikotsu]

Too much time on web 1.0 at a young age.