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[Paradigminant]

Who knew that a 1 off dwarven beard joke would get so heart warming and mushy about the trust involved in chokeing out your partner...

You. I'm onto you. This was your secret plot all along. And I approve. Also, choking OUT is a no-no for me. I'll give someone some tingles, but they're staying conscious. Just too risky.

 

[Redyscom]

You. I'm onto you. This was your secret plot all along. And I approve. Also, choking OUT is a no-no for me. I'll give someone some tingles, but they're staying conscious. Just too risky.

I remember choking her until she passed out two or three times. The first time she got scared, but she liked it, and the other times were just because she ended up enjoying it, hahaha.
Although I personally didn't really like it—it's way too risky. I know first aid and what to do in an emergency, but that's exactly why I know it's so risky to do.

 

[Paradigminant]

I remember choking her until she passed out two or three times. The first time she got scared, but she liked it, and the other times were just because she ended up enjoying it, hahaha.
Although I personally didn't really like it—it's way too risky. I know first aid and what to do in an emergency, but that's exactly why I know it's so risky to do.

Yeah, part of being responsible is knowing that despite all our skills/knowledge/preparation.... sometimes shit just happens. Not willing to let my partner be seriously injured/die, so some things are just off the table, no matter how calculated the risk.

 

[Emily.Everson]

I remember choking her until she passed out two or three times. The first time she got scared, but she liked it, and the other times were just because she ended up enjoying it, hahaha.
Although I personally didn't really like it—it's way too risky. I know first aid and what to do in an emergency, but that's exactly why I know it's so risky to do.

I've done enough judo to have been there and know that it is not what I want in bed. I don't really find air chokes scary anymore, but its not pleasant in the slightes. And a proper blood choke is pointless, get all hot and bothered then out in seconds....

 

[Paradigminant]

Plus so many people don't know how to properly choke someone. Again, research, practice, etc.
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I've done enough judo to have been there and know that it is not what I want in bed. I don't really find air chokes scary anymore, but its not pleasant in the slightes. And a proper blood choke is pointless, get all hot and bothered then out in seconds....

Air chokes are dangerous, that's not sexual choking. It's a blood choke, but you're not clamping down. You're limiting, not cutting off bloodflow. Riding that line.

 

[Redyscom]

Yeah, part of being responsible is knowing that despite all our skills/knowledge/preparation.... sometimes shit just happens. Not willing to let my partner be seriously injured/die, so some things are just off the table, no matter how calculated the risk.

Yeah, that's scary. Even if things went poorly in a way that didn't lead to death, imagine trying to explain that to someone.

I know.
Just as an anecdote, I think it was the second time—when she actually asked me outright to knock her out—that I really panicked when she lost consciousness. I slapped her really hard to wake her up, then I scolded her for a long time for asking me to do that.
Even so, we did it a couple more times, hahaha. I remember clearly that she told me I was a hypocrite.

But yeah, it's damn dangerous, we did it because we trust each other completely.

 

[Emily.Everson]

Air chokes are dangerous, that's not sexual choking. It's a blood choke, but you're not clamping down. You're limiting, not cutting off bloodflow. Riding that line.

I mean, yeah if you pressing hard enough to actually break something (I guess heat of the moment and all), you can cut off air supply way before then. One of the things I learned in judo was that the body panics way more about an air choke (extremely uncomfortable), which you have plenty of time to think and resolve your way through, than a blood choke which will only be mildly uncomfortable then lights out. Resisting the panic and freeing the space to countermove was a thing for air chokes, blood chokes was desperate move then tap.

 

[Redyscom]

I've done enough judo to have been there and know that it is not what I want in bed. I don't really find air chokes scary anymore, but its not pleasant in the slightes. And a proper blood choke is pointless, get all hot and bothered then out in seconds....

Yeah, there's a reason it's a fetish, though I'm pretty sure it's closer to a paraphilia. I prefer other things—something where I have more control over the outcome—rather than risking suffocation and hoping my partner comes to. Like I said, I didn't feel comfortable with that; I only did it because she wanted to.

 

[Paradigminant]

I know.
Just as an anecdote, I think it was the second time—when she actually asked me outright to knock her out—that I really panicked when she lost consciousness. I slapped her really hard to wake her up, then I scolded her for a long time for asking me to do that.
Even so, we did it a couple more times, hahaha. I remember clearly that she told me I was a hypocrite.

But yeah, it's damn dangerous, we did it because we trust each other completely.

I'm the person that plans for "what if the hotel catches fire or I have a heartattack when you're tied up". Might be .00001% chance, but I just refuse to put anyone through that horror movie. So no real metal cuffs, trauma shears in reach, etc... lots of safety stuff before I even think about playing.
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Yeah, there's a reason it's a fetish, though I'm pretty sure it's closer to a paraphilia. I prefer other things—something where I have more control over the outcome—rather than risking suffocation and hoping my partner comes to. Like I said, I didn't feel comfortable with that; I only did it because she wanted to.

It's really the mental side that appeals most to me. Molding/training, playing the tension/release game, helping someone realize their true inner desires, become someone/something else whether permanently or just for a few hours. Designing the perfect rollercoaster ride for someone, tailoring it in the moment, knowing someone's body/mind that well.

 

[gwensfutamilk]

Find a tutorial for ComfyUI, Pixoroma's youtube is where I learned it from, now I starting to feel like I am advertising for him. Make sure you got a graphics card that can handle it and you can get the basics in a couple of hours. There are some less daunting looking local image generators, but ComfyUI is actually pretty intuitive if you get past the initial shock of trying to understand it. And the features are amazing, see a comfyui work you like, drag and drop it onto the workspace and it will give you the workflow, ask you to download any dependencies your missing and even include the prompts used for that image. I don't think it will go find models, but any tutorial worth its salt will guide you to downloading models. It is "possible" to make LoRA's locally (set it up and let my 3070 run for 48 hours and do nothing else), but if you really get into it, it is better to pay a couple of dollars and get your LoRA's made at a website.

Thats really helpful. Thank you!

 

[Redyscom]

I'm the person that plans for "what if the hotel catches fire or I have a heartattack when you're tied up". Might be .00001% chance, but I just refuse to put anyone through that horror movie. So no real metal cuffs, trauma shears in reach, etc... lots of safety stuff before I even think about playing.
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It's really the mental side that appeals most to me. Molding/training, playing the tension/release game, helping someone realize their true inner desires, become someone/something else whether permanently or just for a few hours. Designing the perfect rollercoaster ride for someone, tailoring it in the moment, knowing someone's body/mind that well.

I wish I could say the same... But even though I do plan ahead, I take it more seriously. Tight restraints, hot candle wax, CNC—though sometimes the first "C" is a bit blurry—role-playing, humiliation and degradation, pet play... Now that I think about it, maybe I'm even more wicked than she was.

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[Paradigminant]

I wish I could say the same... But even though I do plan ahead, I take it more seriously. Tight restraints, hot candle wax, CNC—though sometimes the first "C" is a bit blurry—role-playing, humiliation and degradation, pet play... Now that I think about it, maybe I'm even more wicked than she was.

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Oh, I do ALL of that lol. I find there's still room for safety protocols without affecting things

 

[Redyscom]

Have a nice afternoon, guys. I've got things to do. Sending hugs and kisses to all of you~

 

[Emily.Everson]

Yeah, there's a reason it's a fetish, though I'm pretty sure it's closer to a paraphilia. I prefer other things—something where I have more control over the outcome—rather than risking suffocation and hoping my partner comes to. Like I said, I didn't feel comfortable with that; I only did it because she wanted to.

Younger me liked the idea of being a little out of control and subby, these days with young'ins around its about taking what you can get and being quiet as can be.

It's really the mental side that appeals most to me. Molding/training, playing the tension/release game, helping someone realize their true inner desires, become someone/something else whether permanently or just for a few hours. Designing the perfect rollercoaster ride for someone, tailoring it in the moment, knowing someone's body/mind that well.

I'm starting to get the image that @Paradigminant is a professional Dom, complete with the tight leathers and whip at hand.

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[Paradigminant]

Younger me liked the idea of being a little out of control and subby, these days with young'ins around its about taking what you can get and being quiet as can be.


I'm starting to get the image that @Paradigminant is a professional Dom, complete with the tight leathers and whip at hand.

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Where there's a will, there's a way lol

 

[EggHeadedMan]

Unfortunately this eggman still lives.

I remember choking her until she passed out two or three times. The first time she got scared, but she liked it, and the other times were just because she ended up enjoying it, hahaha.
Although I personally didn't really like it—it's way too risky. I know first aid and what to do in an emergency, but that's exactly why I know it's so risky to do.

Also this is the first thing i read upon opening this thread so thats interesting

 

[exlurker]

On new threads, there’s a “Poll” tab next to the “Discussion” tab beneath the thread title. If you click into the Poll tab and scroll down, you’ll find a question field along with possible responses field.
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In the “Possible responses” fields, fill in as many answer choices as you want for the question you’re asking.
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On your existing thread, click the three dots below the thread title, then select “Create poll.”

Aha! Games have poll, m+ and no rank doesn't.

 

[bigusdickus233]

Pokémon Mystery Dungeon is, without a doubt, the best series of official Pokémon games. The only bad one is Gates to Infinity; one of the most beloved is Explorers of Time, Sky, and Darkness; and personally, the best of them all is Super Mystery Dungeon.
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I should remember to share my mod list.

The OG mystery dungeon absolutely floored me with the post game, I already thought the base game was good and then it just kept going. I still sometimes compare modern games to it when looking at bang for buck, it's almost impossible to get that level of content out of a game anymore
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Damn I missed a hell of a conversation lmao. My 2 sense on aspyhxiation, hot as hell if done right. Don't actually cut off the windpipe completely, just clamp the sides to constrict bloodflow. Requires a lot of trust between parties, and I've never made somebody pass out completely. I always aired on the side of caution till we got comfortable and then let her decide how far it went. Safe kink is good king

 

[Someguy69]

The OG mystery dungeon absolutely floored me with the post game, I already thought the base game was good and then it just kept going. I still sometimes compare modern games to it when looking at bang for buck, it's almost impossible to get that level of content out of a game anymore
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Damn I missed a hell of a conversation lmao. My 2 sense on aspyhxiation, hot as hell if done right. Don't actually cut off the windpipe completely, just clamp the sides to constrict bloodflow. Requires a lot of trust between parties, and I've never made somebody pass out completely. I always aired on the side of caution till we got comfortable and then let her decide how far it went. Safe kink is good king

I really need to play them still ... I started mystery dungeon blue rescue team like a few years ago, but almost immediately afterwards I lost my DS somewhere while on vacation. Been too lazy to emulate it but maybe I should do that as my next game

 

[bigusdickus233]

I really need to play them still ... I started mystery dungeon blue rescue team like a few years ago, but almost immediately afterwards I lost my DS somewhere while on vacation. Been too lazy to emulate it but maybe I should do that as my next game

1000% recommend, imo emulators for some earlier ds games don't hit the same since they really leaned into the touch screen, but it's better than not experiencing them for sure! My favorite part of the first 2 mystery dungeons is the mirroring of ds vs gba game slots, the cover arts were looking down/up at each other from the actual positions in the console, and their connectivity even reflected that. Lots of flavor that are missed from modern renditions imo