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While it's possible that sexual orientations shift on their own, I have never seen any evidence that there is any therapy that can reliably do that. But I have seen lots of evidence that attempting to push for such a change is actually very harmful to the patient.When it comes to the social sciences only a tiny handful of theories show direct and consistent causation (types of conditioning for example). Plus, this topic is HIGHLY charged. Whatever you published it will be criticized by some group. There are very talented people that actually have been drummed out because they said (with evidence) certain things. There have been three direct studies and about fifteen to twenty collaborative studies done in anthropology, sociology, psychology and biology. Ex. There are several books on women changing sexual preference later in life. One of the most famous being Mary Shelley. Bring that up to a lesbian and they'll probably tell you she was in denial and was a lesbian all along.
Children are unable to give informed consent, right. I never said anything to the contrary. Why do you bring that up here?Again, you are using the 'False Equivalence' argument. You are arguing that being gay or black is the same thing. I could list many ways there are not, beginning with Piaget's theory of cognitive development. A more apt comparison is between someone that is unable to consent like being passed-out, blind drunk, unconscious, etc... to a child that is cognitively unable to understand what is occurring.
Being gay has been seen as a disorder in the past, hence the futile attempts to "cure" it with conversion therapy.
Being black has never been a disorder, but it was (and often still is) a stressor. Your argument was that if any condition causes you harm, for example be being a stressor, that's a disorder. I just brought it up to show that your argument fails here.
Just because an condition (like being a ****phile) can cause stress because it's something you have to hide doesn't mean it's automatically a disorder. It can become one when these negative consequences become dominant, but that's not the norm. Why else would ICD-11 explicitly distinguish between ****phila and ****philic disorder?
But my question was explicitly about which behaviour you were talking about. You didn't answer that.I was answering in two parts. One, what is considered consumption (material) and I say anything that induces one to behaviors which lead to the "read below".
While that is true (when one tends towards abusive behaviour or consumption of CSAM), it does not relate to the points you referred to with your "see below".I gave a list of warning signs and how many is considered unhealthy. These warning signs are directly connected to your statements. If [someone] is on these forums is engaging in any activity that directly is connected to this topic, it has the possibility of being unhealthy.
There is the problem. Being something you had no choice in is deemed socially unacceptable. Of course we push against that. We just want to be free to be what we are. To not have to hide. What we don't push for is to be free to act on these desires, for that is harmful to others (the children we are attracted to).Yes. Because it is socially unacceptable. Psychologically supported. Legally enforced. The mere fact that people still wish to push those boundaries shows a pathological tenancy to do harm to ones self [or others]. Thus, me saying it's considered DSM worthy of note.
By the way, being a ****phile isn't illegal in most civilized countries, just as being gay isn't (anymore). Only acting on these desires is (and should be).
That distinction between desire and act is what is missing.
That's nothing unique to ****philes though.The behavior's associated with it, yes. "Sexual preference" no. Thus, me saying "See blow". The See Below lists warning signs of unhealthy desires.
CBT is helpful for those who fear they might become abusers (or have done so), or consume CSAM. I wholeheartedly support this kind of therapy. But this doesn't change being a ****phile. Just how you deal with it. Pharmacotherapy can be a good option in more extreme cases. If you are one of these people then yes, you should probably avoid any triggers. But those that have no problems of this kind (which are many) have no need to do any of that.CBT (my focus btw) has more than a few. Pharmacotherapy to reduce sexual desires. The one thing EVERY method agrees on is avoiding triggers. Be it games. Television. Movies. Songs, locations like schools or beaches... It's a little different per person.
Having a healthy, non-harmful outlet to our sexual desires is positive and improves life quality, thus reducing stress and risk of offending.
CBT for ****philes actually often aims to redirect the focus from real children towards surrogates.
What has Freud to do with the lack of good data on ****philes?Yep. Same for Freud btw.
No. I (together with others) have changed a few pro-C people to the anti-C side. Not many, but even a single one would be worth the effort.lol... no, not at all. I said you'll never ever accomplish anything that way. It's fruitless.
But they build themselves a framework of supporting reasoning based on falsifiable claims. By tearing down this framework with actual provable facts we try to force them to rethink their arguments. Just going after their feelings is indeed futile. But that's not what we do.You can't tell someone their feelings are wrong. I thought I was clear about that. You cannot reason somoene out of something they did not reason themselves into.
That might be a good effort if you get pro-C ****s to play your game. I wish you success in that.What I'm doing is more akin to CBT. A type of conditioning that they may or may not be aware of. The more choices they make the more they will be guided to a better solution. If they fail the CBT, they fail the game. More like a Skinner box... but it's hell'a hard to write it properly.
Then that's tough indeed. I love programming.Yeah, I never did programming as IT. I managed MS domain/clusters, Intranet and backoffice stuff. Closest I came to programming was routers, muxes, PBXs, voice over IP ... etc... I hate programming lol.