discussion Have you shared your less...mainstream fetishes/kinks with a SO or friends? If so, how'd it come up and how'd it go?

[ChaosLoli]

College was a time of mutual exploration for me and my SO, so didn't really have to tell her many of them.

 

[careful_cube]

My best friend is well aware of my love for incest, it's one of the biggest jokes between us. As for general friends and family, I'm pretty liberal with my "step on me mommy" type talk, but you'd have to kill me before I talked about my weirder desires.

 

[johndoea123]

One of my exes knows about my DDLG fetish, but that's it. She was fine with it, even acted on it with me during sex. But to admit more than that? Hell no

 

[notricksanchez69]

Don't think I will ever do that again.
I once admitted to my then SO I had kind of a mommy kink and was mocked for it.
She however had a huge daddy kink.

Needless to day, we're no longer together.

Typical

I've shared some, but not all, of them with my wife. And it's going to stay that way, since I would like to stay married.

As to the question earlier about kink and Christianity... Frequently people who grow up in a repressed atmosphere end up being the most deviant of us all, sometimes out of rebellion, and sometimes just because they can't express or act on their real interests, and it just keeps building and building. The old jokes about the Preacher's Daughters being the kinkiest do have at least some basis in fact

I'm no expert, but I suspect someone here is, but Carl Jung has a lot on this topic of the "shadow" and "shadow work." What little I know has helped a lot.

That's weird. I'm not a fan of closed section games, rather an opponent, but we don't prosecute for possession of such materials. Sex with minors is a serious offense, often up to life in prison. For sexual violence against children and teenagers - firing squad. Incest is punishable by termination of parental rights.
But if you electronically store anything, even a full-fledged PTHC, nobody cares.

May I ask where or if anyone knows of other places like this with reasonable accuracy? Seems reasonable, but definitely not the case where I grew up.

I'm pretty sure that a lot of people wouldn't believe me when I say there's a world of difference between fantasy and reality.
For example, if I were to have an impregnation kink (fantasy), I do not want to get my partner pregnant.
I've read a story about that kink in particular blowing up in someones face because the girl could not fathom that it might just be the idea of impregnation, and she broke off the relationship because she thought he would secretly try to impregnate her. Sure this is an anecdote, but how do you even put feelers out to discuss something like that...

Dodged a bullet, some people are just not compatible.

No, and I think guy don't do this for the most part. Seems like females are over all more open about stuff. There a bit more of a push to share to be part of the tribe, that is not as much in man too. guys be like -Yes have been so so buds with that guy for 2 years, his ok. o what is his name? Don't know, did not ask.

Definitely stigma for dudes to share much. I get that ladies and sex have a certain stigma but I hear very little to nothing about the stigma guys get. If a girl masturbates its, hot, sexy, even cute, not so much for the dudes. Nothing but shame from most and anything outside missionary sex with your wife can be used as weapon against you. I don't subscribe to either of these btw, enjoy sex, do it safely, don't hurt anyone, unless they ask nice

I haven't really had an SO, so no on that front. My 2 best friends sure know I like smolls, it comes up often enough in jokes. Since i like saying/doing things that shock people, many colleagues at work kinda know I'm "not disgusted by younger girls", though they all would still trust me around their little daughters because they know I mean nobody any harm

When I get in a serious relationship I'm definitely planning on being up front about it. If she doesn't accept that then our relationship wasn't going to work anyway, I don't want to hide from an SO, i wish to be able to confide in one, about anything.

Good call and good luck! Good mental health lives in authenticity. Better to be alone than with someone that hates you.

 

[pretz]

no, dont think I ever will either, there will be a day I hang up the boots

 

[pervin]

Never and don't even feel the need to anymore! Then I've discovered this site

 

[Coffee]

Only with my spouse. Especially during sex.

 

[Coffee]

Only with my spouse. Especially during sex.

The dirtier the better.

 

[ThatGoblin]

I would parish from embarrassment plus friends would jokingly rip me to shreds any chance they can.

 

[jacky76]

Yes, and according to what my wife says, I should go get treatment.

 

[Cocaine]

Of course I have, and I'm fortunate enough to be with someone who loves me for all my filthy, fucked-up kinks. Some of the shit we've said to each other in bed is downright vile.

 

[sommerlager]

The only kink I shared and tried with my SO are anal and bondage. I seldom meet people who are comfortable to talk about kinks IRL.

 

[User_111574]

My wife knows everything about me. It's pointless to hide your interests if you value relationships within your family.

 

[dude4real]

Never.

Brought up things, like, slightly leaning in the direction of a few fetishes, current SO of 15+ years reacted in disgust.

Or, when mentioned in other contexts (characters in tv and movies), they call it sick, disgusting, or said they should "all die".

Mind you, these don't involve non-con, anyone hurting, or require laying out plastic, but "they should all die".

Had a prior partner I shared a really vanilla one with (kinky nuns), who weaponized it after breaking up, told everyone.

Have one I'd like to get rid of, but no way in heaven I would ever admit to a psychologist.

At this point, biggest fantasy is to catch someone I like in the physical act of doing such a fetish, and acting like it's the first time I'd ever seen it (false) and it's the hottest thing I've ever seen (true). Even then I'd be terrified, pretending I'd never thought about it before.

Thank heaven for other freaks being creative making games, art, and generative AI. Triple-encrypt files, double-lock doors, don't tell a soul, just never gonna happen for me.

 

[MisterRoboto]

Don't think I will ever do that again.
I once admitted to my then SO I had kind of a mommy kink and was mocked for it.
She however had a huge daddy kink.

Needless to day, we're no longer together.

I feel like there's a joke hidden in there somewhere.

 

[husko]

after me I have something rather basic that everyone can have like fucking a milf