discussion Small Or Large Penis?

[Konnorman]

I've been around the Porn Game scene for awhile but I have seen every few ppl who share my interest in small penis on MC or Side Characters. As I was never a fan of the Over Exaggerated size'z on the MC's. It always annoyed me in a way. Hints why i love games like insexual awakening, and daily lives of my country side. So I'm wondering. What do you guys like and or prefer? Small or large!

 

[User_111574]

It doesn't depend on the size, it depends on how you use it. It's your partner's pleasure that counts.

 

[MicoJive]

In games? Appropriate size for the body.

Just like female characters I like when the boobs are actually sized appropriately for the body/age. Same with the male characters.

I hate female characters who have tits the size of beachballs, and I hate male characters in games who would make a horse jealous.

 

[eljopo]

I think as long it's not disproportionate i don't really mind the size, although i do tend to prefer it's bigger than smaller, but it's not like a deal breaker or anything

 

[Kernist]

Just normal size. I don't know why so many games go for oversized penises, I want to fuck her, not impale her for fucking sake.

 

[LewisCarroll]

It doesn't depend on the size, it depends on how you use it. It's your partner's pleasure that counts.

As much as we would like to believe this, orgasm is partially reliant on [mental] perceptions; size does play a sizable (hehe) part (~50% report not having an orgasm regularly). If the woman perceives the penis as not being 'big enough' it will make achieving an orgasm more difficult (varied between women). Fantasy plays a huge role as does presentation. Learn your partners kinks. Get into better shape (helps with perception).

If you're under 5" I highly recommend grooming down there as it will make it appear larger.

 

[LewisCarroll]

Only small or large? What happened to medium? Or normal?

 

[djkla]

both fine as long as the proportions aren't so weird as to be funny

 

[Kernist]

As much as we would like to believe this, orgasm is partially reliant on [mental] perceptions; size does play a sizable (hehe) part (~50% report not having an orgasm regularly). If the woman perceives the penis as not being 'big enough' it will make achieving an orgasm more difficult (varied between women). Fantasy plays a huge role as does presentation. Learn your partners kinks. Get into better shape (helps with perception).

If you're under 5" I highly recommend grooming down there as it will make it appear larger.

Well, yes, size matters to some degree, but in my experience while talking to females (it seems like they indeed exist, just not on the internet) penis being too big is a problem, not penis being too small.

Somehow we, men, invented this "size" problem, and by watching porn which aims for casting well endowed actors and by playing porn games which for some reason likes to make MC a horse we developed some kind of insecurity about it. All these "I'm unsatisfied with my bf/husband size and I'm cheating because I'm frustrated sexually" settings are just a fantasy and I never heard about such situation in real life.

You can ask then "why do 20 inch horse dragon hybrid dildos exist?" Well, I think they mainly exist for porn industry and cam girls. Outside of that, there are some deviant women into that stuff for sure, but your average girl - she is probably not interested in that.

 

[jajajabr69]

im not playing these games for realism i wanna see bigger everything

 

[AlBetGam]

Really don't get hung (no pun intended) up much on penis size. That's not the part of a sex scene I'm most interested in; as long as it's not distractingly weird in some way I'm probably fine with it.

 

[james223]

definitely large because it’s funny and it’s even better when they make the girls react in some ways

 

[LewisCarroll]

Well, yes, size matters to some degree, but in my experience while talking to females (it seems like they indeed exist, just not on the internet) penis being too big is a problem, not penis being too small.

Somehow we, men, invented this "size" problem, and by watching porn which aims for casting well endowed actors and by playing porn games which for some reason likes to make MC a horse we developed some kind of insecurity about it. All these "I'm unsatisfied with my bf/husband size and I'm cheating because I'm frustrated sexually" settings are just a fantasy and I never heard about such situation in real life.

You can ask then "why do 20 inch horse dragon hybrid dildos exist?" Well, I think they mainly exist for porn industry and cam girls. Outside of that, there are some deviant women into that stuff for sure, but your average girl - she is probably not interested in that.

As someone that has worked in psychiatric medicine, women tend to be the worst people to ask direct sexual questions to. Every sexuality course I've taken has hinted at that. 5:10 times they will not answer honestly due to stigma, embarrassment or outright unwillingness to be honest with themselves. Being far less aggressive than men makes them far less likely to admit (or demand) what they want. Thus, women's #1 sexual fantasy's dealing with loss/gain control of will (with partner). Women internalize most of their emotions, thus them being far more likely to suffer from depression and anxiety. They also internalize environmental stimuli more than men too.

And men did not "invent" size issues. It's a carryover from natural selective mechanisms. It's instinctual. It's a remnant of our lizard brains and guess where many of our sexual drives live... yep, in our primitive brains. Our higher functions invent new measures (bank accounts, IQ, athleticism, etc...).

Moreover, size matters for another reason. The more confident a man is the more confident in bed they will be (even if it is not deserved). How many nude male dancers have a tiny penis? I used to date a stripper for a few years and I was the club owners friend. The best time to go to a strip club was during women's lockup lol.

Anyway, you're not exactly 'wrong', but you're definitely avoiding popular cultural perceptions and how they often outweigh logic and reasoning. Sex is the base thing humans do beside eating, sleeping and killing.

 

[master cruss]

I feel like medium/normal is considered small because you know the internet.
Basically if your dick isn’t the size of your forearm it’s tiny and pathetic.
Just like the whole mega boom issue.

 

[Kernist]

As someone that has worked in psychiatric medicine, women tend to be the worst people to ask direct sexual questions to. Every sexuality course I've taken has hinted at that. 5:10 times they will not answer honestly due to stigma, embarrassment or outright unwillingness to be honest with themselves. Being far less aggressive than men makes them far less likely to admit (or demand) what they want. Thus, women's #1 sexual fantasy's dealing with loss/gain control of will (with partner). Women internalize most of their emotions, thus them being far more likely to suffer from depression and anxiety. They also internalize environmental stimuli more than men too.

And men did not "invent" size issues. It's a carryover from natural selective mechanisms. It's instinctual. It's a remnant of our lizard brains and guess where many of our sexual drives live... yep, in our primitive brains. Our higher functions invent new measures (bank accounts, IQ, athleticism, etc...).

Moreover, size matters for another reason. The more confident a man is the more confident they will be (even if it is not deserved). How many nude male dancers have a tiny penis? I used to date a stripper for a few years and I was the club owners friend. The best time to go to a strip club was during women's lockup lol.

Anyway, you're not exactly 'wrong', but you're definitely avoiding popular cultural perceptions and how they often outweigh logic and reasoning. Sex is the base thing humans do beside eating, sleeping and killing.

I am sorry, but you say it's women who internalize their emotions? I hope you kept a receipt of your courses so you can ask for a refund. As for the rest - I am not convinced about stigma. Yes, it was the case in the past but today? Times changed. A lot of women proudly announce their body count is in double digits, your statement is true, but not up to date.

Another thing - natural selective characters are a thing and always were, but genitalia size was never one of them. Size, muscles, being chubby (means access to food) - yes, penis size, no.

About confidence - that is true, however it proves my point - it's men who are not confident in their sizes. Women do not see your penis size while dating but certainly feel your confidence, if men wouldn't be insecure about their sizes everything would be fine. As for male strippers - idk, you tell me, I never saw any, and I bet your average woman didn't either. Brothels/strip clubs are not places where average person goes - so it is more of a case like the one I said about dildo sizes.

And I totally disagree with the last statement - sure, instincts are still within us, but they do not outweight us as humans. We don't kill our bosses because they fuck us over with work. We don't rape women on the street just because we find them hot. We want to sleep but we still get up when alarm rings. Also if you think that following only logic and reasoning is good - remember Thanos, he also followed logic and reasoning.

 

[LewisCarroll]

Let me ask you this question then. If penis size doesn't matter... does that mean breast size doesn't matter to all men?

I am sorry, but you say it's women who internalize their emotions? I hope you kept a receipt of your courses so you can ask for a refund. As for the rest - I am not convinced about stigma. Yes, it was the case in the past but today? Times changed. A lot of women proudly announce their body count is in double digits, your statement is true, but not up to date.

I think you misunderstand me. Penis size isn't necessary or required to be a certain size. It is the conscious and unconscious thoughts, beliefs and biological mechanisms that inhibit satisfaction in that area that I'm speaking to. And let us be clear. I'm referring mainly to penis size smaller than ~3" mainly (small). I don't know many men that like being on the left side of the bell curve. And I've read hundreds of case studies.

Another thing - natural selective characters are a thing and always were, but genitalia size was never one of them. Size, muscles, being chubby (means access to food) - yes, penis size, no.

That's a pretty big claim that I'd like some evidence for. In my research many women consider it at least somewhat important, though it is rarely the only factor. There are many factors they chose a man and they are more than willing to 'sacrifice' one quality for another.

About confidence - that is true, however it proves my point - it's men who are not confident in their sizes. Women do not see your penis size while dating but certainly feel your confidence, if men wouldn't be insecure about their sizes everything would be fine. As for male strippers - idk, you tell me, I never saw any, and I bet your average woman didn't either. Brothels/strip clubs are not places where average person goes - so it is more of a case like the one I said about dildo sizes.

Again, you're make a very bold claim. Penis size is often associated with masculinity in popular culture, in historical references and in art. Research is small but at least two publications say at least some women think size does reflect elements of masculinity (PLOS ONE & The Journal of Sexual Medicine). Again, not all women and not all the time.

And I totally disagree with the last statement - sure, instincts are still within us, but they do not outweigh us as a humans. We don't kill our bosses because they fuck us over with work. We don't rape women on the street just because we find them hot. We want to sleep but we still get up when alarm rings. Also if you think that following only logic and reasoning is good - remember Thanos, he also followed logic and reasoning.

It's your right to disagree, but that does not make you correct. If you have issue with the fight, flight or freeze response or Maslow's hierarchy of needs that's fine. I think you're taking my words to the n'th degree and conflating it with meaning that is not there.

 

[Kernist]

Let me ask you this question then. If penis size doesn't matter... does that mean breast size doesn't matter to all men?


I think you misunderstand me. Penis size isn't necessary or required to be a certain size. It is the conscious and unconscious thoughts, beliefs and biological mechanisms that inhibit satisfaction in that area that I'm speaking to. And let us be clear. I'm referring mainly to penis size smaller than ~3" mainly (small). I don't know many men that like being on the left side of the bell curve. And I've read hundreds of case studies.


That's a pretty big claim that I'd like some evidence for. In my research many women consider it at least somewhat important, though it is rarely the only factor. There are many factors they chose a man and they are more than willing to 'sacrifice' one quality for another.


Again, you're make a very bold claim. Penis size is often associated with masculinity in popular culture, in historical references and in art. Research is small but at least two publications say at least some women think size does reflect elements of masculinity (PLOS ONE & The Journal of Sexual Medicine). Again, not all women and not all the time.


It's your right to disagree, but that does not make you correct. If you have issue with the fight, flight or freeze response or Maslow's hierarchy of needs that's fine. I think you're taking my words to the n'th degree and conflating it with meaning that is not there.

To all? Ofc it does to some people, rarely anything deals in absolutes. It's like with penis it does matter to some.

1. Well, actually there is certainly a minimum when it comes to pleasure and reproduction, but these are extreme cases, and yes, I believe many men don't like being on the left side of the curve, because again, it's men who make a big deal out of this.
2. Really? I don't think it is a bold claim. Since humans wore clothes penis size isn't really a factor, and even before that it wasn't as important as other factors. Almost all biology books say women seeked fat men because fat meant access to food and men seeked chubby girls because chubby meant bigger chance for a woman to produce healthy offspring. Today, penis size is not something that women base their opinion on, excluding, you know, sluts, penis is the last thing woman discovers regarding a man. You claiming it matters for majority - last time I read papers about it most women were only concerned about penis being too big, the rest didn't really matter.
3. Ofc penis is associated with masculinity just like breasts are associated with feminity and there are proofs of that since prehistoric times. Also I believe you some women think that size reflect the masculinity. Some people believe earth is flat. I am not sure what is a dominant trait for women judging masculinity - muscles? Being a good father? Making a lot of money? Sexual prowess? I would guess one of those, but not penis size, but again, some women probably do think so.
4. Both things are true but I don't see how do you fit them here in this argument. Fight flight or freeze - yes, what other options do you have? Maslow's hierarchy - yes, but it doesn't mean humans don't actively act against it when needed. Like I said, instincts are coded within us, but they do not steer us anymore.

 

[User_139447]

As others have said, I prefer a realistic dick size, and that is - taking porn (games) as a scale - on the small side.

Example would be Family Affair. MC has a realistically sized dick. Compared to 90% of porn games it's small, but in reality it's average.

I tend to give devs some leeway though, especially in 3D games, because posing sexual activities is much easier with a larger dick.

 

[LewisCarroll]

To all? Ofc it does to some people, rarely anything deals in absolutes. It's like with penis it does matter to some.

1. Well, actually there is certainly a minimum when it comes to pleasure and reproduction, but these are extreme cases, and yes, I believe many men don't like being on the left side of the curve, because again, it's men who make a big deal out of this.
2. Really? I don't think it is a bold claim. Since humans wore clothes penis size isn't really a factor, and even before that it wasn't as important as other factors. Almost all biology books say women seeked fat men because fat meant access to food and men seeked chubby girls because chubby meant bigger chance for a woman to produce healthy offspring. Today, penis size is not something that women base their opinion on, excluding, you know, sluts, penis is the last thing woman discovers regarding a man. You claiming it matters for majority - last time I read papers about it most women were only concerned about penis being too big, the rest didn't really matter.
3. Ofc penis is associated with masculinity just like breasts are associated with feminity and there are proofs of that since prehistoric times. Also I believe you some women think that size reflect the masculinity. Some people believe earth is flat. I am not sure what is a dominant trait for women judging masculinity - muscles? Being a good father? Making a lot of money? Sexual prowess? I would guess one of those, but not penis size, but again, some women probably do think so.
4. Both things are true but I don't see how do you fit them here in this argument. Fight flight or freeze - yes, what other options do you have? Maslow's hierarchy - yes, but it doesn't mean humans don't actively act against it when needed. Like I said, instincts are coded within us, but they do not steer us anymore.

Then, it seems you do not have issue with what I'm saying in principle then.

The fact that women have breast enlargement surgery, that research shows primary sexual characteristics are indeed important to sexual desire and there are tons of social and historical examples proves my point.

And I'll leave you with one last thought on my assertion that women don't tell you the whole truth... PornHub has done meta analysis on their viewership (please forgive me if I misremember). The average penis size was ~7", large/huge penis searches were very high, the stereotype's about S. Korea/Japan are true in searches (vs Africa), gay men and women do search frequently by penis size.... but women were far more eclectic than men's. Of course these are not entirely reliable and don't follow proper research methods, but consumer data is still VERY influential in content provided by companies. So, even if you're right and it's mainly a male preoccupation, that's still more then 50% of the population we're talking about. That kind of influence has a ripple affect on sex across the world.

 

[Kernist]

Then, it seems you do not have issue with what I'm saying in principle then.

The fact that women have breast enlargement surgery, that research shows primary sexual characteristics are indeed important to sexual desire and there are tons of social and historical examples proves my point.

And I'll leave you with one last thought on my assertion that women don't tell you the whole truth... PornHub has done meta analysis on their viewership (please forgive me if I misremember). The average penis size was ~7", large/huge penis searches were very high, the stereotype's about S. Korea/Japan are true in searches (vs Africa), gay men and women do search frequently by penis size.... but women were far more eclectic than men's. Of course these are not entirely reliable and don't follow proper research methods, but consumer data is still VERY influential in content provided by companies. So, even if you're right and it's mainly a male preoccupation, that's still more then 50% of the population we're talking about. That kind of influence has a ripple affect on sex across the world.

Well, women do both enlargement and reduction surgery. Idk what the ratio is, but I believe more women do enlargement. Why? Because of the same misconception - just like men believe women prefer bigger penises women believe men prefer bigger breasts. That's why enlargement is usually done because of complexes while reduction is usually done because of medical problems. Exaggeration of sizes as a symbolism of fertility in art and history doesn't proof its connection to sexual preferences- it can be, but rarely is.

Yeah, I believe the data, however porn is porn and reality is reality. I mainly search for incest and loli porn (hentai) - things I would never do in real life. Just because women like to watch an actress taking BBC doesn't mean they want to do it themselves. I knew a lesbian who liked to watch girl being fucked by a huge dick so... you know.

Women not telling whole truth, I believe that also. It's like a joke, when man tells about his body count divide it by 2 and when woman says about her body count multiply it by 2. I would assume many men would lie in survey asking if they are virgins or not - because of stigma as you said earlier.

Summarizing, research isn't really too accurate because of both sexes lying about certain things, porn search data doesn't correlate to preferences in real life and my personal experiences and conversations with trusted people means nothing because it is not even close to a control group one would need to draw any conclusions. Another thing is the region. Inhibition is certainly different in US, it is certainly different in my country and that is certainly different in some conservative muslim countries.

It was nice talking to you and seeing a different view on the topic, but it's time for me to go to sleep. Have a nice day and good night.