discussion quitting porn addiction experience

[Hhdrrsfgj]

So i've decided to quit porn alltogether or atleast remove it as main way to feel love, cause i am an awkward guy, never ugly, but not a beauty god. I've been beating my shit since i can remember myself, i've noticed too that i started doing it compulsively, too deal with a lot of anxiety, shame and general anguish and despair. Also my porn is keeping getting worse and worse, i am already desenticised to vanila sex, and basically neglect myself just by jerking off lol. Can someone share their tips, experiences about just quitting crrazy shit? Or recomend some good romance games atleast lol

 

[Hhdrrsfgj]

also i've heard that cold-turkey way that repairs your brain is 90 days of complete porn isolation. Have someone done it or atleast tried it? I guess it is hard when no one sucks your dick while you do it

 

[BrodyPresto]

Thematically appropriate coming from someone with a Grigori Rasputin avatar.

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Still haven’t found your “Russian Queen” yet, so you’re stuck masturbating?

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Jokes aside, I remember quitting porn completely for about half a year. When I finally came back to it, the orgasm was insane. Honestly, if you avoid anything remotely sexual, you’ll be fine. The moment you start teasing yourself with sexual content, you’ll eventually end up wanting to watch porn and get off again. So are you quitting just porn, or masturbation and sex too?

 

[irh15gh]

If you're trying to quit porn, it might be a good idea to get off this site to be honest, this is primarily a porn site. If you're truly trying to quit, it'll do you no good to stay around temptations

 

[micah jones]

also i've heard that cold-turkey way that repairs your brain is 90 days of complete porn isolation. Have someone done it or atleast tried it? I guess it is hard when no one sucks your dick while you do it

Once an addict - always an addict. After 90 days, the withdrawal effects subside, but the control is gone in that aspect.
Remember that abstinence is not sobriety. Abstinence means you don't do stuff, but if you don't have a plan for how to replace it (since the emotional payout of the porn addiction is so huge), you will get back to it after a few days.

Find SLAA meetings, get obsessed with another hobby (gym, running, tabletop games, cooking - whatever works), and try to get the therapy to understand where it is coming from.

Good luck. You'll need it.

 

[Hhdrrsfgj]

Once an addict - always an addict. After 90 days, the withdrawal effects subside, but the control is gone in that aspect.
Remember that abstinence is not sobriety. Abstinence means you don't do stuff, but if you don't have a plan for how to replace it (since the emotional payout of the porn addiction is so huge), you will get back to it after a few days.

Find SLAA meetings, get obsessed with another hobby (gym, running, tabletop games, cooking - whatever works), and try to get the therapy to understand where it is coming from.

Good luck. You'll need it.

i guess getting with a real woman is a main way lol

 

[irh15gh]

i guess getting with a real woman is a main way lol

Just make sure she's at least 18, don't want your weird porn habits catching up with you

 

[Hhdrrsfgj]

If you're trying to quit porn, it might be a good idea to get off this site to be honest, this is primarily a porn site. If you're truly trying to quit, it'll do you no good to stay around temptations

i can't imagine a better place, where people can share their experience freely and anashamed.

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Just make sure she's at least 18, don't want your weird porn habits catching up with you

you got very dirty mind

 

[irh15gh]

i can't imagine a better place, where people can share their experience freely and anashamed.

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you got very dirty mind

That's why I'm here and a have member+

 

[Yardbird]

It's such a bad addiction. All the best in your efforts. Ideally you should get something that keeps your mind occupied and away from your pc or phone. Make sure you are around a lot of people as much as possible. Ideally get a friend to check on your (But that is difficult).
Good luck, let's all hope you go past the 90 days and keep on going. There are some awesome sites that can assist with videos etc.

 

[Hhdrrsfgj]

Once an addict - always an addict. After 90 days, the withdrawal effects subside, but the control is gone in that aspect.
Remember that abstinence is not sobriety. Abstinence means you don't do stuff, but if you don't have a plan for how to replace it (since the emotional payout of the porn addiction is so huge), you will get back to it after a few days.

Find SLAA meetings, get obsessed with another hobby (gym, running, tabletop games, cooking - whatever works), and try to get the therapy to understand where it is coming from.

Good luck. You'll need it.

sounds for sure very fatal. Thanks though very much for the advice. But why do you think it's forever and etc? I think this serious of lifestyle change opens up some space to atleast grow something better out of yourself socially. I mean i already now that my habit is basically just a way to avoid

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It's such a bad addiction. All the best in your efforts. Ideally you should get something that keeps your mind occupied and away from your pc or phone. Make sure you are around a lot of people as much as possible. Ideally get a friend to check on your (But that is difficult).
Good luck, let's all hope you go past the 90 days and keep on going. There are some awesome sites that can assist with videos etc.

thank you if you're serious, but what do you mean by videos??

 

[Dip!]

Well, im not too sure what i could add to this. Worse case is you go to counciling or something.


I do agree you need to find a safe replacement(s) but don't get a unhealthy attachment to those either.

If you must absolutely relieve yourself, use your imagination.


I've wondered if i had an addiction, but i don't fortunately. I'm not desensitized to vanilla, in fact, I'm very vanilla in terms of actions. Most out there is overstim. Plus while i typically do it to help sleep and its the only tike I can usually do it, i can go multiple nights to a week without doing it. Either too tired or couldn't fimd something to get me in the mood. Plus i can fight of the feeling to when needed.

I worried that me moving away almost entirely from irl porn but when i thought about it. It made since with my personality and what my mind actually is craving. Plus the more i grew up the more irl porn that is not pov felt like i was in a cuck chair or hiding in a closet.

See irl, I'm not sexual at all. I'm a big time and place person so i don't even mention things unless i believe it is necessary. (Even if that caused people to think I'm "innocent" as i heard some people say)

And well, on here, it is not always the right time but is always the place.

Anyway...what i was saying with what my mind actually craved and why i moved from irl porn mostly. It is because my mind craves the emotional physical aspect of a relationship more then the sexual physical. Which makes since because if/when i find someone, I'm not gonna rush on sexual stuff happening to me specifically.

So my brain moved from irl porn to porn games with characters i can attach too or porn with characters i already have an attachment too. So I've mostly moved to art and audio roleplay porn. Plus i listen to asmr too. While i listen to women asmr only now i do remember finding one guy that was hilarious and had like his own multiverse lore.

Heck last night i dreamed (again) a girl confessed to me.

I even had a dream last month of me finding a girlfriend and all we did was cuddle in bed and i never felt such pure bliss. Assuming that was the feeling of bliss.

So places like this and video games is really my only place that lets me fulfill that side of me without "ruining" the reputation i would like to uphold with freinds and family.




I guess you can use some weghts and every time you feel the urge you lift them untill the feeling goes or your arms are to tired to masterbate? At least i finally thought of something potentially useful to you.

 

[micah jones]

But why do you think it's forever and etc?

Medically speaking, addiction is a chronic lifetime disease of the brain, just as diabetes. You can live a healthy, happy life with diabetes AS LONG AS you stick to the diet and medication. But it will never go away. The same is with addiction - you can have a happy, balanced, and fulfilling life AS LONG AS you keep the abstinence/work the programs. But as with any chronic disease, you use once or twice, and you risk relapse, no matter how long you've been sober.

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Know your enemy

 

[Hhdrrsfgj]

Medically speaking, addiction is a chronic lifetime disease of the brain, just as diabetes. You can live a healthy, happy life with diabetes AS LONG AS you stick to the diet and medication. But it will never go away. The same is with addiction - you can have a happy, balanced, and fulfilling life AS LONG AS you keep the abstinence/work the programs. But as with any chronic disease, you use once or twice, and you risk relapse, no matter how long you've been sober.

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Know your enemy

i've spoken with people about it, never complained, rather just given my whole experience and tough, that maybe it just a way to release a lot of energy and potency. Whenever i got with girl i just was crazy and though about their body all the time. Almost ruminating. I think this is the reason i lost distinction between genuine passion and destructivity. Since the moment i stopped i work out a lot, draw, really want to contact with people. I've been looking into it for some time and i just guess i am someone who's anxious obsessive by nature and it is something like from Bruce Lee's qoute, where i need to find right ways to? i guess some kind of immediate surges of activity. But i guees to find profeccional is the best way figure out my healthy routines. I guess the main reason i do what i do is being mesled. I guess it's a problem for a lot of guys today.

 

[cbarnes1551]

i guess getting with a real woman is a main way lol

Didn't work with me. What did was getting a roommate. The roommate was always home playing games and would bother me for literally everything when I was in my own room. After a close call, I stopped all porn consumption and got into smoking the herb instead. When they moved out, it was back on but not at the rate before, and I'm not even talking about jorking it, just straight up porn.

Also, now that incestflix shut down, porn consumption is basically only on the weekends since my partner is always up for it.

 

[freenow133]

I suggest the easy way to quit porn book, it's based on a short book that instantly helped me stop smoking.

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Porn definitely fucks with dopamine, but so does just about everything these days (phone games, internet, food, etc). Give it a shot it can definitely mess up your life.

 

[brunostaker]

got into quitting porn after i discovered how badly it was affecting my sexual life (and my life overall). as soon as i stopped saw that i got more energy to do stuff outside, to meet new people and overall a better life. as my therapist said, it wont affect much of your life if its a "once in the week" thing, but you need that control over yourself. (jacking off to imagination is not bad though, bbut doing too much without lube can and will affect your sex life)

 

[Hhdrrsfgj]

got into quitting porn after i discovered how badly it was affecting my sexual life (and my life overall). as soon as i stopped saw that i got more energy to do stuff outside, to meet new people and overall a better life. as my therapist said, it wont affect much of your life if its a "once in the week" thing, but you need that control over yourself. (jacking off to imagination is not bad though, bbut doing too much without lube can and will affect your sex life)

same thing actually. Teaching myself guitar instead of jacking off, even moves are the same lol

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Didn't work with me. What did was getting a roommate. The roommate was always home playing games and would bother me for literally everything when I was in my own room. After a close call, I stopped all porn consumption and got into smoking the herb instead. When they moved out, it was back on but not at the rate before, and I'm not even talking about jorking it, just straight up porn.

Also, now that incestflix shut down, porn consumption is basically only on the weekends since my partner is always up for it.

are you telling me he wasn't respecting your space? Unfortunately i think fear of exposure won't help me and drugs too, cause it eather amplifies the lust, or just doesn't bother me. Have you ever said not to bother you, when you jerk?

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I suggest the easy way to quit porn book, it's based on a short book that instantly helped me stop smoking.

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Porn definitely fucks with dopamine, but so does just about everything these days (phone games, internet, food, etc). Give it a shot it can definitely mess up your life.

i don't really trust those kinds of books, isn't it a lil crazy to discipline yourself just for your feelings? I mean yeah, it definetely ruins you, but it is you too

 

[Cratosstratos]

Good luck, its a hard addiction to kick. But your future self will thank you.

 

[Hhdrrsfgj]

Good luck, its a hard addiction to kick. But your future self will thank you.

is it something you've done? How did it felt and what was the way to it?