discussion Introvert trying to say hi and become more active, looking for tips.

[honestasian]

Hello everyone!
Big fan of the site, community and games - Been lurking over a few weeks but wanna participate now.
I don't know what it is about online communities that makes it so hard for me, but I always struggle taking part of anything social. I really wanna change this, as I feel like I am missing out on so much.
How do you guys deal with being an introvert, even in an online setting?
I feel anxious even thinking about replying to anything in a post or asking questions in chats.

 

[User_111574]

You can start with reviews of games you've already played. The people here are quite friendly, mostly very welcoming, so I'm sure it will be without any unpleasant incidents. And once you get your hands on it, start taking part in the various discussions. The most important thing is that your comments should not be brief, not two or three words. Try to make detailed comments. And I wish you good luck!

 

[honestasian]

You can start with reviews of games you've already played. The people here are quite friendly, mostly very welcoming, so I'm sure it will be without any unpleasant incidents. And once you get your hands on it, start taking part in the various discussions. The most important thing is that your comments should not be brief, not two or three words. Try to make detailed comments. And I wish you good luck!

Thanks, maybe this is a good place to start indeed, it would at the very least be a way to push myself, as I usually don't ever write reviews on anything in general.

I feel your pain. What helped me personally to get out of my shell is to first accept that I am here because I want to be here due to my passions. Then there was the the growing trust that I am not the only strange one around here. Taking myself and others with some distanced humor helped me to not take any interaction too seriously, and over time this grew into actual social interaction. It takes time, though. Just take it easy and come back often.

It does kinda put it into perspective when you realize most, was the non-participating stranger once, i appreciate the thought. I definitely plan on trying to keep in mind why i joined in the first place

Hi!
Well, first off. It's completely understandable for it hard to want to be social, especially for a community.. that is about porn. Essentially.
A community like this comes with some benefits. Anonymity. Lack of seriousness. And it's relative, temporary nature.

You aren't 'missing out' by being a lurker. Except content this site puts behind a lurker gate. If you don't try to be part of a community outside of here, especially in your day-to-day life, I'd say you're missing out on more there. This - probably won't help with being better with the day-to-day. Except as a stress reliever.

Personally, I avoid people online, and offline.


That's what I do! I been trying to replay a few games, and saying how I feel about them.

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But welcome to the community. Stay as long as you want. Don't feel pressured to post. If you feel like you HAVE to post, then it's probably going to be low-quality. People probably won't respond well to it.
I've been lurking on and off, since mid last year. Maybe for a couple minutes here and there. And it wasn't till now did I ever feel like I'll make some comments.

Yea I for sure feel it a bit harder to participate due to the nature of the theme, but also it kinda helps knowing that people are probably more "open" in these environments. (At least that's what I hope for)

Honestly, i think the lurker gate might be a good thing for people like me. It kinda does give you that push to at least try somewhat, and maybe it will lead somewhere with time. I do appreciate the tip regarding not feeling pressured to post, it's just about finding that balance/difference between feeling "pressure" and "anxiety" i guess.

I don't do as poorly in day-to-day luckily, but I could definitely still improve a lot, so kinda hoping I can take my experiences here and apply it generally.

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Thanks to everyone's kind words so far, it was a better start for me than i anticipated

 

[master cruss]

I know how you feel I struggle posting myself I'm definitely a natural lurker. Everyone here has been nice to me on this board you shouldn't feel anxious about posting.

 

[albatross]

Welcome, and just say what's on your mind, everyone here seems pretty cool.

 

[Dummy256]

I can relate. Most of the time I have nothing meaningful to say and therefore feel really dumb.