discussion anyone dating a crossdresser ??

[fthegovernment]

assigned male at birth, now dresses & affirms as female has taken interest in me.
i never would have known if they didn't tell me upfront that they were a crossdresser.

do you have exp, what should I expect if they ask me on a date & I accept.......

 

[User_111574]

No, I am heterosexual, men (in any dress) do not interest me.

 

[fthegovernment]

No, I am heterosexual, men (in any dress) do not interest me.

what's the reason you are here ?

i'm hetro too, what are you implying, that I should just punch them in the face & kick them in the head a few times while they are down to fix the problem ??

edit: to place the " I " before "should" and not after

 

[User_111574]

what's the reason you are here ?

i'm hetro too, what are you implying, that I should just punch them in the face & kick them in the head a few times while they are down to fix the problem ??

edit: to place the " I " before "should" and not after

Fuck whoever you want. But that doesn’t mean I have to kiss the ass with all kinds of woke up. I’m a communist, but I don’t advertise it on this site.
Why am I here? LC for me one of the backup sites, for me the main base - F*95. The closed section does not suit me because of the total lack there at least in the slightest degree of quality content. Japanese graphics disgust me. And in the closed section of such games/ VN about 60-65%. MI can't get hard-on to the pictures, I prefer the company of my wife. And these games (especially sandboxes) allow me to relieve psychological stress after a hard day’s work. So everyone has their own cockroaches in the brain.

 

[secrettunel]

1) you should expect the same kind of thing you would on any date, which is: doing something both of you enjoy doing as you get to know each other.
2) probably don't call her a crossdresser if you want to have future dates. if she's dressing, acting, and living as a woman, treat her like a woman and call her as such unless she says otherwise.
3) don't bring up her genitals or surgeries unless the conversation is going in a sexy direction anyway and you want to see her naked (if you wouldn't ask these types of questions to a cis woman, extend her the same courtesy and don't be an invasive weirdo just because you haven't knowingly interacted with someone like her, it's a date not an information panel.) safe topics of conversation are the same ones you would bring up on any date.
4) treat her like a human being with individual tastes and interests, just like you would with anyone else you're taking on a date. it feels weird to be treated like a novelty or a representative of everyone who shares just one aspect of your identity, and if you're on the receiving end of that it's usually obvious when someone is doing so. at the same time if you're nervous because you've never dated someone like her, it's better to say exactly that. do your best not to be rude, and if you make some missteps apologize quickly, correct yourself, and move on. just be nice, if the date goes well it goes well, and if it doesn't go well, no harm no foul, just no second date.

source: i'm a ftm trans man and my wife is mtf (plus many many trans friends of various genders and sexualities, having heard both success and horror stories about dating cis people from them)

Fuck whoever you want. But that doesn’t mean I have to kiss the ass with all kinds of woke up. I’m a communist, but I don’t advertise it on this site.
Why am I here? LC for me one of the backup sites, for me the main base - F*95. The closed section does not suit me because of the total lack there at least in the slightest degree of quality content. Japanese graphics disgust me. And in the closed section of such games/ VN about 60-65%. MI can't get hard-on to the pictures, I prefer the company of my wife. And these games (especially sandboxes) allow me to relieve psychological stress after a hard day’s work. So everyone has their own cockroaches in the brain.

i think he was asking why you were responding about your own preferences on this specific thread when he was asking for advice about his situation, not asking why you're on lc forums generally.

 

[fthegovernment]

Fuck whoever you want. But that doesn’t mean I have to kiss the ass with all kinds of woke up. I’m a communist, but I don’t advertise it on this site.
Why am I here? LC for me one of the backup sites, for me the main base - F*95. The closed section does not suit me because of the total lack there at least in the slightest degree of quality content. Japanese graphics disgust me. And in the closed section of such games/ VN about 60-65%. MI can't get hard-on to the pictures, I prefer the company of my wife. And these games (especially sandboxes) allow me to relieve psychological stress after a hard day’s work. So everyone has their own cockroaches in the brain.

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have a nice day

1) you should expect the same kind of thing you would on any date, which is: doing something both of you enjoy doing as you get to know each other.
2) probably don't call her a crossdresser if you want to have future dates. if she's dressing, acting, and living as a woman, treat her like a woman and call her as such unless she says otherwise.
3) don't bring up her genitals or surgeries unless the conversation is going in a sexy direction anyway and you want to see her naked (if you wouldn't ask these types of questions to a cis woman, extend her the same courtesy and don't be an invasive weirdo just because you haven't knowingly interacted with someone like her, it's a date not an information panel.) safe topics of conversation are the same ones you would bring up on any date.
4) treat her like a human being with individual tastes and interests, just like you would with anyone else you're taking on a date. it feels weird to be treated like a novelty or a representative of everyone who shares just one aspect of your identity, and if you're on the receiving end of that it's usually obvious when someone is doing so. at the same time if you're nervous because you've never dated someone like her, it's better to say exactly that. do your best not to be rude, and if you make some missteps apologize quickly, correct yourself, and move on. just be nice, if the date goes well it goes well, and if it doesn't go well, no harm no foul, just no second date.

source: i'm a ftm trans man and my wife is mtf (plus many many trans friends of various genders and sexualities, having heard both success and horror stories about dating cis people from them)

thank you,

they have been very open & forward since the day we meet in a random public place (randomly)

it went from "Hi" to 100 mph pretty quick.