I would not go backend lol, A1111 is great, and there is plenty of help online for using it. Alas, I use the backend command line, so can't help you here
As long as the dev IS working on the next update, interacting with fans and followers is encouraged, jsut not at the expense of doing actual work on the game. Some fall into that trap.
yeah, only one game that I found where the size didn't change was Adam and Gaia, but I'd like to find others. I do see Large Female, Small Male a lot, but I prefer the other way. I'd like to find another with that dynamic