Check out the Dol Plus mod. It overhauls combat and allows you to rape them when you win I'm pretty sure. Another game to try is Liliths Throne. That game is similar to DoL except if you win the combat you can rape them or force them to do things or even capture them as slaves.
For anyone who is struggling with the difficulty, once you get to Noer Inn and pick your first quest, take the cemetery quest. All you have to do is kill 20 skeletons and it pays pretty well and its repeatable. Just do that quest a few times and you'll be higher level and have enough money to...