Communication from the dev is the most important thing for me. I would rather wait for a quality update and be able to follow the progress and possibly be included in voting or giving feedback somehow. If they're behind schedule, let us know they're behind schedule and tell us honestly when we...
Solo harem, no sharing. That said, if the story is good I don't mind passing on a potential love interest to help a friend. Summertime Saga comes to mind. I usually do a nice guy playthrough and a selfish bastard playthrough