If you are married for that long it's not as important. I would try to preserve my looks even after 30 years of marriage though. You might have to join the competition eventually. Unexpected things can happen.
I am moving to Netherlands soon partly because of this. Lots of "open-minded" tall men with beautiful dicks there.
Also are you French Canadian? I heard they are more conservative than the rest.
Which country? If you look older, you can aim for slightly older women. I feel like the problem is in your head and you are totally okay. I wish I was 5 cm more taller. Women care about height a lot in my country.