I'm sure they can work for somethings, however I'm not a fan myself plus with like Daz/Honey select renders the dev can tell the story they want and have the scenes concise, compared to jumping to different porn scenes I feel that would be vary jarring and take away from the immersion.
If it's changeable then I use my nickname IRL and usually I keep the female Li names default, other times I will randomly choose the names for example Sarah is one I'm fond of using then might use other names of either people I like or celebs I like.
It's hard I'd say, I mean I like them both, DS has the wife, his daughters & Ivy and HSoA has the wife, his daughters they are redheads & the female assassin.
1 is a non grinding Sandbox the other isn't. They have some similarities but I have no preference as they both have the 'cest too.
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For me it's good for some things however I feel it's quite tedious, prefer Ren'Py however I do like ToN (Treasure of Nadia) and that's RPGM. Each to their own though