Yup, they feel lazy. I could have pulled up regular porn if I wanted that would have been a better experience. Maybe I just haven't played a good one. Plus it's immersion breaking or something to recognize the actress.
If I get to create my own character I almost always make a male with my hair color. But it doesn't bother me at all if the character I want to play happens to be female.
I can play a regular game for 8 hours and not mind the grind if I enjoy the game loop. When I sit down to play an adult game I'm usually only looking to play for 30 min or so. If I have to spend 2 hrs to get some random girl to give me a blowjob, right after I nut I think "what a waste of my...
I think it's nice sometimes but loud music during lewd scenes I usually turn down. There is often music but no other sound, which is weird. I would much prefer sound effects and voiced dialogue over background music.
If it feels like boring filler writing I will begin skipping. Some stories are good and funny. Good writing can definitely enhance the fap when it's finally time though.