Lillith's Throne lets you impregnate pretty much anyone with a uterus (Then do the same to your kid)
Most ERA games also do the same, but those are significantly harder to get into.
I think Renryuu Ascension lets you impregnate your girls, but I dunno how developed it is.
Lillith's Throne definitely has this feel, mostly because it's one of the only truly pansexual games I've played (most of it is optional).
Re: Dreamer is written by a trans woman (I think), and certainly reads like it.
The Last Sovereign is developed by a woman (art is drawn by a woman too)...