only when the don't actually look like old granny's.
like the grandmas from You must be registered for see element. (looks mature but not overly old or wrinkly).
I would say 2-3 Months but if its a good dev that has proven they can deliver good and a sizable amount of content then I would say 4-5 Months would be fine but It would have to be worth the wait if not then that dev would lose my confidence.
In adult games I prefer to play as male like myself but for normal games I usually go for female if given the choice as they seem to look better and have better customization options.
It doesn't really bother me, I like games that have a lot of choices that also matter so I'm essentially the person moulding the MC of how I just feel at that time.
I don't mind a little bit of challenge but the reward needs to be good and make the challenge feel worth it. otherwise it is just tedious for the sake of it.