I don't think they are the same but i think that you often see people who like both or hate both whereas it's rarer to see someone who only likes one so it is quite easy to treat them the same.
Yeah I agree the mental gymnastics are strong here especially under your assumption that the words mean the same thing in game consumption as they do in reality. My point is that that may not be the case. Like you said, the concept of consent by a fictional character is ludicrous and therefore...